if yes, why? wouldn't it just drag out their suffering? would it be selfish to tell, just so you aren't suffering alone? what would be gained? if no, is that selfish? would they be angry that they didn't get to suffer with you?
2007-02-26 14:03:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not saying family are horrible monsters and would be angry for your dying, I'm asking morally, emotionally, would you want them hovering over you crying and pre-mourning with your remaining few weeks?
2007-02-26 14:12:35 · update #1
Definitely not, my daughter would drive me insane before I died.
2007-02-26 16:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the ?? is "why" but " how long".
The length of time is so important. Family is very important. particularly if your close. There are those who are or have not been able to spend as much time with the person that they would like to.
So if they are able to spend some time with them now is the moment.
It may be short or long,but at least they have the opportunity to have some last moments with them.
Its never easy, your not prolonging the suffering, your actually been given some quality time. That is all that's required.
It then gives the relations some closure and able to say what they have always wanted too. Good or bad it's a time well spent.
Than you have the otherside. If you don't say anything it could hurt the relative more so. Those last words are important.
You may be a relative, who has wanted to say sorry or for whatever reason would like to say something but didn't.
2007-02-26 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by aotea s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. Because I think it's more evil to surprise them and leave them feeling like they didn't get a chance to talk to you.
I don't fear death, so I'd take the time to tell them that I'm not afraid and that I love them, that I'm not suffering, and not to worry about me, and comfort them.
2007-02-26 14:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its important, not selfish, to tell your family. They are your support sytem and they will understand if you need their help. I'm sure they would not be angry and they wouldn't regret ever going through this tough time with you (unless they are totally heartless human beings, which I doubt)
2007-02-26 14:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell, because my family would want to help me however they could, and spend what little time they have left with me.
2007-02-26 14:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, giving them fair warning is the only polite thing to do.
2007-02-26 14:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULDNT YOU.....GIVES THE FAMILY TIME TO ADUST AND PREPARE FOR THE OUTCOME AND GIVES FAMILY MEMBERS TIME TO RESOLVE OLD ISSUES WITH YOU AND TO COMFORT YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED
2007-02-26 14:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by clever1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, I would so, your FAMILY can ease your PAIN.
2007-02-26 21:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by NOKIA 6103 By T*MOBILE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋