I want to be fun for him, but I am cluless. We have been married for 10 years. He sais I should have figured out what he wants by now. He wont get more specific, He just goes silent and pouts. I sugested we go to councilling to help us comunicate and he said "so you need to talk to someone else to find out what I want". He tells me he loves me, that he does not want to change me and that he will just have to buck up and be unhappy. I feel like tearing my hair out. How can I be fun for him and make him feel loved. All I feel like doing is crying and that is no fun.
2007-02-26 13:58:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he sounds baby-ish. he should be able to say specifically what he wants. you aren't a mind reader
2007-02-26 14:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop pouting and start talking and communicating with you about what he wants you to do with him that is so much fun. He is in denial and he needs counseling to help communicate to you what he feels and wants and if he cannot do this in the right way then he needs help to learn how to do this. Do not tear your hear out over this. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter . Try thinking of fun things to do with him. Tell him to go out to see a funny movie with you and how about a day at the beach or something like that for fun without any business or work involved. How about just spending a day with him just doing fun things.
2007-02-26 22:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be he wants more, wilder sex, more often initiated by you.
Three reasons I think that:
1) 'intellectual/business type' relationship is how you would describe a marriage without enough sex.
2) Its not an uncommon complain for men ....
3) If he wanted you to go bowling with him or something, I think he'd just say so. Sex ... he's more likely to hint at and then pout when you don't pick up on it. That's because people don't take it personally if they have to ask their partner to go bowling with them, but it hurts if you feel that your partner doesn't want you sexually like you want them.
I might be wrong, but my guess is, if you slut it up and jump him he'll go through the roof.
2007-02-27 11:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A common problem that can only be solved by having mutual interests. Marriage is a compromise and you both need to make them. Sit down and map out on paper what your common interests are, what you are not interested in and what new things you have in common that you would like to try. As far as how to make him feel loved, think back to what you did in the beginning and start doing those things again. Everyone wants to feel important and respected. Give him what he likes.
2007-02-26 23:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by ilostabuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what he needs and it should do wonders for both of you. When he's a work you go take your shower and shave your P U S S Y. When he comes home you tell him to go lay on the bed. Then go in the bedroom and sit on his face. Tell him you wanted to play Carnial and this game is for him to guess your weight. Have fun. PS- If your fat don't sit on his face for more than 30 seconds or he might not recover.
2007-02-26 22:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jack M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to counseling with you if he is serious about getting the relationship back on track otherwise its just a living arrangement. The relationship isn't in the proximity it's in the communication between you too. Maybe he is going through some emotional issues. Whatever it is he needs to talk about it and not blame it on you. I commend you for wanting to go to counseling. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-26 22:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by kws504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a little sexual healing honey . Be more care free dress sexy put on the makeup dress like a tramp once in awhile what can it hurt . Have fun play games . Guys are like big kids
2007-02-26 22:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont depend on him for your fun...you hubby sounds like a guy who likes to keep to himself...
go out with friends....you enjoy yourself...alone....then you both will also enjoy together...
get a new haircut..buy some great clothes...read books...expand your awarenes....do yoga,,,,just learn to freakout....your hubby will love it that you;re not dependant on him and will join you...
men hate anyone to be emotionally dependant on them
2007-02-26 23:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jennie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋