what should I do about my husband?

Question

My husband tells me that i am not attractive anymore, he lies to me and then asks me why I dont trust him, I have found out that he has shown interest in other women. He doesnt show me any affection, he speaks to his friends with more respect than he has for me. He never lets me buy any thing and yet he spends money on stupid xbox 360 s**t. And he hangs out with a guy that influences him to not do the right thing. He never cares or listens to anything that I say. I believe in my heart that he cares about me.... what should I do or say? Please help!!

Answer 1

Well if you like being a doormat, stay. If you're more important than an xbox, you're going to have to stand your ground.
You're married to a little boy (and an obnoxious one I might add). You need to stand up to this rude little kid and demand that he treat you with respect. If he can't, show him the door.
If he's as bad as you've said, how can you possibly believe in your heart that he cares about you? Just curious.

Answer 2

This makes me feel better about my marriage. My husband also bought a xbox 360 as a gift to himself. He was always on it. Until I said, Hey, I want to play to! He got games we could both play and I can share what he enjoys.
Now, him telling you that you are no longer attractive, ask questions. What exactly? Don't tot tally change yourself, but have you gained a lot of weight? What does he lie about? Big thinks or trivial things? Men will always show interest in women, keep your man happy and he won't have to go anywhere else.
Old fashioned? Maybe, But I'm happily married.

Answer 3

I think you need to think about what you want and what it is exactly that you get out of this relationship. I have recently gone through this and ended up being walked all over and having lost pretty much all my own self respect and dignity. Then i just thought long and hard what i wanted, we tried counselling but that didn't help sort it out but it did put someone elses perspective on the problems and helped us think clearly about what it was that we wanted. You need to talk to your hubby and try and sort it out if that's impossible then you need to decide do you want to go through the rest of your life like this or end it. You need to have respect for yourself and don't allow him to treat you this way.

Answer 4

If he will listen, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Try to set some goals together on ways to improve your marriage. If he feels you are not attractive any longer, ask him what has changed. Be honest with him about your feelings. If he is committed to your marriage and wants to be with you, then you both need to work together. If he is not willing to work on making things better, I say you are better off without him.

Answer 5

You don't believe in your heart that he cares about you, you hope to high h*ll that he cares. If you're hanging out hoping he'll change, don't waste your time. From what you wrote he sounds like a bonafide turd and he likes himself that way. That means, if you want it to stop, you'll have to get out.

Besides, if you leave, he'll have more respect for you. Right now he has none for you because you let him treat you that way.

Answer 6

i'm sorry to hear that, and i don't really have an answer for you, i'm going through pretty much the same thing!!! good luck, you need to maybe figure out if you really have changed physically or if you show less interest toward him too that makes him not attracted to you??

Answer 7

First, you open up a checking account and put your money in it. Tell him what bills you are willing to pay. Then reserve yourself while he tries to enjoy his X life.

Answer 8

Put on some real sexy cloths when his friends come over and kind of model for them ask them what they think . Your husband will get mad at his friends and keep his eyes on you

Answer 9

Why don't you try to make youself attractive instead of getting old and fat. What man wants to roll his wife in flour to find the wet spot so he can poke her.

Answer 10

dump him