I'm 33wks pregnant and my fiance is sooo attentive. I should be happy right? Except sometimes it DRIVES ME CRAZY!
Every night when he walks in the house he asks how i am, puts his hand on my cheek and forehead (to make sure i don't have a fever), strokes my belly, asks if i'm hot/thirsty/hungry/tired/sick etc - even if i say i'm fine he is all over me with "Oh my poor baby this is so hard for you" etc.
Every morning when we wake up he asks if i'm hot/thirsty/hungry/tired/sick etc and comments that he feels bad that i'm so tired (even if i don't say i'm tired). He is just so ... concerned.. ALL THE TIME - even without needing to be.
Sometimes i can't handle all the extra coddling - he acts like i should be wrapped in cotton wool or something. "You shouldn't carry this, you shouldn't lift that, sit down i'll get you a drink" etc
Am i being unreasonable? Should i just be happy he's so attentive or am i entitled to get annoyed with it sometimes?
2007-02-26 13:56:00 · 8 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
LOL
I know the feeling - I'm pregnant not disabled
You are entitled to feel this way
I was spoilt since the day I was born but now tht I'm pregnant I hate it!!!!!!
I refuse to let hubby do things 4 me or ppl to pamper me
I guess its the hormones??
You go gal :)))
2007-02-26 14:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by PeTiTe_Mummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are entitled to be annoyed; but some women would die for that kind of attention while they are pregnant. He must have been brought up to believe you should honor and adore pregnant women (for the pain they have to bear). That's old fashioned, I know, but hey, some guys are darlings. Just tell him kindly he shouldn't be so concerned as you do not have an illness--just a condition.
2007-02-26 14:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it (READ talk NOT NAG.) and assure him everything is going to be alright, you are alright and understand that he is excited to be a father and tell him about how you feel.
If that does not work, say how it is affecting you and you are afraid this affect on you much not do much good for the baby or you because it nerves you, may cause some problems (be specific, I know you could come up with a good-medical sounding exscuse to tell him calmly to back off.)
Despite all that, if it does not work, you do not have that long to go until it is over.
2007-02-26 14:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how that would be annoying. But enjoy it while you can, as soon as the baby comes all that coddling is gonna stop, and hes gonna be pushing you out of bed so you can go take care of the crying baby.
2007-02-26 14:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would start to be annoyed if my fiance did that all the time but at least you know that he cares about you and your baby. You should be happy but you can also have your limits as to what doesn't bother you and what does.
2007-02-26 14:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by 1 confused chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are entitled to your feelings... your hormones are out of whack too. However... coming from someone who has been going through this pregnancy alone... feel so blessed you have such a loving fiance..I wish I had that.
2007-02-26 14:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by shugarmagnolia420 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i woulda loved to have been treated like that!!!! i think your lucky but i can imagine that it would be annoying at times he does seem like a great guy though and your really lucky to have one like that!!where did you find him and was there any left??lol my guy isnt too bad but he could do with getting some pointers off your guy!!!
2007-02-26 14:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam girl wanna trade? LOL Count yourself lucky, alot of men are not like that!!!
2007-02-26 14:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋