i have 2 kids a 3 year old girl(bailey) and a 3 day old boy(gabriel) (if you read all my other postings).. my husband is in Germany( not for the army to be with his family for a bit) and he doesnt want me to get a job beacsue he wants me to stay home and have as much time with the kids. i have been doing this for 3 years and i wake up and do like nothing all day and if i do somthing i just spend money. i have taken bailey to the park but now that i have gabriel i dont want him to be so vunearble to sickness so i dont know what to do now. since my friend is comming to help out with the kids shoudl i get a job and go against my husbands wil? help!
2007-02-26 13:48:40 · 8 answers · asked by Hallie L 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
i can imagine how you feel like.
congratulations with your baby boy!
i would tell my husband how i feel, that i want to do something else besides being stay at home mom. maybe you could get a part time job close to home so you have something else going on in your life. or take a class, or do some voluntary job or work from home.
2007-02-26 14:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you nothing all day and take care of a 3 year old and a baby. It takes a lot of work to accomplish this and take care of a home. Maybe you take some classes that you are interested in if you are craving some conversation with adults or friends. Talk with your husband before you do anything so you don't end up arguing or something. The kids will only be little one time and when they are older there is still many years to work. You can have it all especially if you are in the position that you can make your bills without having to be gone all the time. You are very lucky , maybe you don't realize how many women want to be home and they can't because they are single or without the income they can't pay their rent.
2007-02-26 22:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you could be suffering from some sort of depression. I was really depressed after my son was born (He was a preemie and in the hospital for 10 weeks) but I just trudged through, but hardly did anything around the house. I lost a baby girl at 21 weeks back in Aug and went on Zoloft and I can't believe the difference. Also, if you want to work, how about talking to your husband about opening a day care in your home. You will need to get a license and have your home inspected, but you will be making money and still be with your kids.
2007-02-26 22:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be your own person. You and your husband need to discuss this and maybe seek some guidence together. I see nothing wrong with you working from home in some capacity. I don't know your situation and I won't tell you what you should do other than you are a person with feelings and a sense of need. Here are two sites you can look at that may give you some ideas as to what you could to work from home. Some very good articles to read.
2007-02-26 22:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what your feeling. Don't go against your husband, but you do need to discuss this with him and the two of you decide together what is right for your family. Maybe some sort of compromise would be perfect. Congrats on the new baby. You may want to consider not making any changes for a few weeks, just to let yourself, your firstborn and the new baby adapt to the change of life.
2007-02-26 21:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by JLSN32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go against the husband's will, but do consider volunteering on a part-time basis and paying a sitter. You could do a call-center at your local American Red Cross, or start up a children's ministry at your local church.
Just some ideas. . .
2007-02-26 22:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try working from home. If you are interested in a legitimate home based job,check this site out http://www.pcworkathome.net
2007-03-02 11:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Rajni P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always listen to your husband.
2007-02-26 21:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋