pregnancy question...what's happening to me?

Question

this is probably the stupidest thing that i have ever asked in my life. I am 22 weeks and 3 days pregnant, this is my third pregnancy and i do not know what is happening. Lately i am really stressed to the point where i get frustrated so much that i cant do anything for my 3 year old and he needs a lot of attention due to health reasons, im so stressed and upset all the time i just lay around and cry. I dont eat right i dont get out of bed half the time and if i do its to get dressed and make dinner for my son and bf. The past few days ive had nothing but 7 hours of sleep i just lay in bed in cry and dont stop, i keep gettin terrible migraines and a lot of cramping. Its at the point now where i think that i am being tortured for having this baby like its a big mistake. I am at the point where i feel like im gonna go nuts. Atleast 4 or 5 times a day i can feel my stomach cramping and getting really hard and sometimes i feel as if im going into labour. This has never happened any advice

Answer 1

1. Call Your OB/GYN
2. See your OB/GYN
3. Follow up with your OB/GYN
This is not just your life, it is also the lives of your unborn baby and more importantly your 3 year old who needs you.
Get up off your bottom now and call your OB/GYN.

Answer 2

For whatever reason you are under too much stress. Maybe you already know what is bothering you. Maybe you don't. Maybe its just homones messing with you. Since this is your third you should know that every pregnancy is different. Also, your body changes as you get older. Some people get depression during pregnancy, (not just after birth). Im on my second baby. (the first is 9 years old!) I have found myself "freaking out" a lot more this time around as well. I sometimes cry for what feels like no reason. And I have been tired the whole time, not just first few months. headaches may be cause by the crying. I know I get them becasue of that. You should talk to your doctor, there may be some non drug solutions if you are depressed. In the meantime what has been helping me is getting out of the house. Sometimes my husband and son have to poke and prod at me to get going, but once I get a shower and get out of the house it helps, even if I just go to the store or something like that. If I didn't have to go to work every day I would probably just stay in bed. I feel like I need a reason to get up, can't seem to do it for myself. Don't know about the cramping, unless maybe that is your body's way of telling you you need more sleep. Good Luck to you!

Answer 3

Each pregnancy is different, even when its a child created by the same parents as the others.

I would say that the stress is hormones and that the cramping is your uterus trying to get into shape. Every time you have a baby, your uterine walls stretch. After a couple pregnancies, your uterus will contract throughout the pregnancy so that it will be in shape to contract effectively during labor.

Having said that, I went into pre term labor with my 2nd child due to dehydration. If you are keeping hydrated and not spotting, its probably just your uterus trying to get into shape. When you go to your next appointment, mention whats going on to your OB/GYN, just in case.

Also mention the stress and other feelings you are having as well as the sleeplessness. There might be a treatment thats safe while pregnant to make things easier for you. If theres a friend or family member who can help with the 3 year old and household, by all means, ask!

Answer 4

Girl, you're just TIRED and HORMONAL! You need to speak with the doctor for one thing. That can ease a lot of your stress. Secondly, have a long talk with the boyfriend and tell him you need him to help you. You need him to baby you sometimes! I know women have been having babies for centuries, but I don't care what anyone says...it's not easy! Today, you're making a spleen for another human being! Tomorrow....a skeletal system! It's a big deal!

I'm 5 months along, and I don't sleep more than a few hours at a shot, either. I get moody and have days when I don't want to do a darn thing. You're not nuts. It's normal, but your boyfriend can help, and...is there anyone who can care for your son once a week for a few hours, so you can just read a good book or kick back and destress? You really do need a break. Good luck!

Answer 5

I would say that with this baby, your hormone levels are probably through the roof, which is what's causing part of your stress and crying.
The other part could be that because you have another child who needs extra attention, and you're still expected to provide "normal" duties for your son and boyfriend, you're over-working yourself. PLEASE be careful about this--I'm serious. Because as you probably already know, your baby can suffer greatly (and even come too early) if your blood pressure gets too high! The cramping you referred to, from what I've heard from my gynocologist, can be directly caused from too much stress in your life.
I would suggest two things: the first being, ask your boyfriend to help you out more, not only with your son, but also with stuff around the house. He probably works, so this may seem like too much to ask of him right now--but it will be for the health of you AND your baby.
The second thing is to talk with your doctor about what you can be doing to relieve stress and tension in your life. See if there are calming techniques (probably something much like lamaze) that you can do in your spare time, that will help calm you down. Knowing that you're overly stressed may cause your doctor to review whether it's time for you to go on a leave already (if you're working, that is).
Again, please take it easy, as much as is possible. And blessings on you and the baby during this time! :) You will be in my prayers...

Answer 6

All of these symptoms are very similar to mine when I was pregnant, minus the cramping.
I was so depressed and anxious and I'm certain it was hormonal but precipitated by some negative circumstances.
I demanded that my OBGYN find me a psychiatrist and as soon as I had an apt. with her I felt better. I never needed anti-depressants, but you might, and Zoloft is considered relatively safe.
I did take Valium as needed for anxiety.
I also went to my therapist.
I recommend you tell your OBGYN what you are going through and find a therapist to talk to. Ask the OBGYN to find you a psychiatrist.
I now have a healthy, beautiful, brilliant 2 year old.
You will be OK. Hang in there for yourself, your 3 year old and your little baby.
Best to you.

Answer 7

It could be the stress getting to you or the lack of sleep. I would call your Dr. and disscuss with them. If you are not getting enough sleep at night that can really mess your whole day up. The good thing is if thats the problem they can give you something to help you sleep like ambien which is safe to take while pregnant. I hope you get to feeling better soon. God Bless and Congratulations on baby number two.

Answer 8

Completely normal
It is just stress and the only thing you can do is relax and ask for help to de stress.
It is also hormones.
When i was pregnant i was just flipping out for no reason. I was mad a my mom for helping with my four year old. I though she was trying to take over. I didnt want her helping at all...but i did...i was so confused.
I cryed over everything...i mean everything...i was making big deal sout of nothing...

It was crazy...especially during the second trimester.
During the last it got better...

I would ask for hlep to get some sleep and relax...

There really isn't anything else you can do...it will be over soon

Answer 9

The cramping is probably your body telling you your dehydrated. If you don't stay hydrated you can put yourself into premature labor. As far as stress goes try & take each hour or 1/2 hour bit by bit, you may feel more in control that way.

Answer 10

get help. you need to get out of stress. It is very bad for your child. Send the 3 year old to your parents or a sitter for a day or two. Just get out of stress, and get some sleep.