Am I being nosey?

Question

There is this girl in my class. We always talk about the class or what we like to do but isn't it weird we don't even know each other's name....LOL

Anyways, she has been missing class for three days. She came back and I asked her where she was. So, she told me she was going through a divorce and she had to go to court for those days.

I suppose I'm her friend right? She's looking down lately. So, I wanted to ask why they are getting a divorce? Am I being nosey?

Answer 1

No but maybe you should be more of a friend and ask her if she would like to hang out. grab something to eat and talk. If she is looking down try to help her out. I also attend a community college and alot of times I will talk to people in class and not know there name but do try to be a friend as much as I can. You can always ask just put it in a nice way. Such as, if you dont mind me asking why are you getting divorced.

Answer 2

Please do not ask her why. Just let her know you care as a friend by telling her you are sorry to hear she's getting divorced and that you are there if she needs a friend.

Chances are, if you become closer friends, she will tell you why anyway. But it's rude and inappropriate to ask someone you only know through a class why they are getting divorced!

Answer 3

No not at all if she felt comfortable telling you that she is getting a divorce then she very well may be comfortable talking to you about it. Dont be pushy or anything but ask her and see what she says it may be comforting to her to talk about it with you since you dont really have a close relationship, someone not involved in the issue.

Answer 4

No i do not feel this is nosey at all. If you are curious just ask her as she is your friend and be a friend and support to and for her during this time. She will thank you for it as she really needs you as a friend now more then ever. Take her shopping and have fun times with her and try to cheer her up. She may be also glad that you ask her so she can talk and open up to someone about this as i am sure she needs to talk and vent about it. this may be good for her to do so to you as you are a friend. It may make her feel better to be able to open up and talk about it to someone.

Answer 5

It sounds like you were friends, but not on a personal level. Most women need to talk and will do so if they feel comfortable enough with you to do so. If you both do not even know your first names, that should be a heads up right there.

Answer 6

You are, but its natural. Maybe you should start off with a not so direct question. Like ask does she need to borrow notes due to absence, and then ease into the nosey whodunnit questions...

Answer 7

nope talk to her and find out if she is okay maybe she needs a friend to talk to talk u are not being nosey u are just being a friend. going throw a divorce is very hard on some one and it can take a toll on someone physical mentaly talk to her

Answer 8

How you make friends 101

Tell her directly I am here if you need me. She apparently needs an ear. She is going through a rough time. Tell her first off, "I am so sorry about your divorce" "What happened?" "If you don't mind me asking?" Trust me she will open up. If she does mind you asking, she will say "I don't want to talk about it". Then, you don't push it, she will talk to you when she is ready.

Answer 9

No you shouldn't ask her why she is getting a divorce. She will tell you if she wants you to know.

Answer 10

I would ask her if she wanted to grab a cup of coffee (not as a date) but to see if she needed a friend to talk to...and she may or may not open up..