If one loves a taken partner, what is the option of people in love but cant be together due to circumstance beyond their control and the heart does not want to move on...'Charles and camila' proved that Love does not die, it is just surpressed to keep diginity, but deep down it will always be there to please the others for the position one holds. Who is to blame?
2007-02-26 13:33:42 · 9 answers · asked by lulu 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Please be real, all this;' when you love you have to...... and should .....is not realistic. I'd like to hear from realistic people who've been there, not people who just watch movies and think that is life, coz its not.
This is not for juliet and Romeo, its real life...
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2007-02-26 13:47:23 · update #1
I ask the one below who answered!! Don't you understand the pressure from parents who want one to marry the right person, wihtout thinking of what the impact it has on their children. They should be allowed to make their own mistakes not just commit to a marriage...why would one be married for 30 years just prove anything if they are not happy..
2007-02-26 14:07:18 · update #2
Blame is worthless - it is better to look at responabilities.
If you cannot be togther and your love is strong - then just hang on in there
2007-02-26 19:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by Freethinking Liberal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think Charles and Camilla kept dignity. I think if you fan the flame (by continuing to see and have an affair with someone) then, yes, the fire will continue. Arranged marriages are not less successful than "love" marriages. I think it's expectations about what love should be that keep people in these situations rather than a supposed undying nature of love. I don't think that for love to be love, it must be undying. Sometimes, if you really love, you let love go. And sometimes, people are selfish. Which is human.
2007-02-26 22:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by eli 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When the self is whole and undivided against its self. We are all to blame and be blamed.
The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative.
Let the Judgment judge its self.
Quote: "General envy constituting itself as a power is the disguise in which greed re-establishes itself and satisfies itself, only in another way. The thought of every piece of private property as such is at least turned against wealthier private property in the form of envy and the urge to reduce things to a common level, so that this envy and urge even constitute the essence of competition. Crude communism is only the culmination of this envy and of this levelling-down proceeding from the preconceived minimum. It has a definite, limited standard. "
http://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscripts/comm.htm
2007-02-26 21:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is a decision not a state of being. My husband is my husband BECAUSEwe made a COVENANT PROMISE, not because I love him. I LOVE him because I make a decision everyday to die to my own selfish desires and love.
Charles and Camila had a relationship of lust not of love. You can lust after someone who you can never be with because of circumstances or you can LOVE them with a pure and selfless love that WANTS them to remain true to their first love and covenant.
And deep down it will only "always be there" if it is fostered and made to grow instead of making a decision to move on and see beyond the initial FEELINGS. If a partner will leave a commited lover for another partner in a time of passionate feelings, what is to keep them from leaving the new partner for the next "true love" that comes along. if it was TRUE in the first place it wouldn't have ended.
THIS is Love:
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. love never fails...
who is to blame you asked? the one whose heart is selfish and not truly loving
2007-02-26 21:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Caridad 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only person to "blame" is the person who can not let go. i can't blame my mate for me not beign able to let go, nor vice-versa.
Charles and Camilla proved that 2 people unwilling to honor their commitments keep their love alive. Other people can break free. I'm not judging btw, I couldn't care less what they do, but they do NOT prove that "love does not die"
I love dating married women, there's less pressure.
2007-02-26 21:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wisdom for lack of Compassion.
2007-02-26 21:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by matthew m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never date a married man. You deserve better than he can offer and you don't want the grief.
2007-02-26 21:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved
2007-02-26 23:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife or husband" , learn from this.
2007-02-27 04:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by nosy old lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋