Me and my fiance are quite young (he's 20 and I'm 18) He has joined the Army and we are very much in love are we to young to get married?
2007-02-26 13:27:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes.
2007-02-26 13:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've know people your age that have been married and stayed married. Not many, but a few. And I can't tell you if they're happy or not. I just know I was married at 18. By 30 I was a completely different person. My husband didn't change that much but I did. It caused many, many problems in our marriage and I've been divorced 17 years.
Only you know if you're ready. Just be prepared to accept your fiance as he changes (because he will) and hope he like who you develop into. Good luck.
2007-02-26 21:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you are too young to marry. That is your age is proper. There may be other considerations though: Your levels of maturity and your love and commitment to one another, whether you are still in school or not; whether his military posting is a career or a tempo.
In all, 18-20 is not too young to marry all other factors consdered. Those who may argue you are too young fear that you may break up soon--but those who marry at 30 also fear the same. They may also fear that you are not experienced enough--But whatever experience you need you can learn it together. Best wishes
2007-02-26 21:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAY too young. Wait at least until he gets out of the Army....then get engaged, married about 2 years later. You ought to be at least 25 before you get married.
2007-02-26 21:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your very young, really haven't experienced life to it's fullest, and with him joining the army, he will come back a changed man. If you truly love each other, when he comes back, reconsider, but for now, I would definitely wait. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 21:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie- Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. Please, if you love each other that much then grow together while you have to opportunity to still have your independance. Getting married so young and losing that "prime" time of independance makes the challenges of marriage so much greater that the majority of early marriages end up in divorce. Live a little, laugh a little more and love alot.
2007-02-26 21:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. I did the same thing, I waited until he got out of basic, got married, and moved in with him. I was 20, he was 19. I guess it depends on how mature you are. We were both ready to be self less and be committed to each other and put each other's needs first. Congrats on being engaged to a military man, it's a great life, but a challenging one! :)
2007-02-26 21:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would wait a couple of years to get married but that is just my opinion and what i would do. How long have you known him and been dating him. I would say you should date and get to know him for at least a year and get to know all you can about each other before even thinking of marriage.
2007-02-26 21:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.Neither of you have figured out who you are yet.Most people don't really know what they want or who they are inside until they reach about 30 years old.Both of you will change in the next few years.Your ideas will change and you might even set goals in your life.All these things will be good for you both but it could also be a dividing line for a relationship.You both may choose different paths.
2007-02-26 21:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, both of you are young, but you wouldn't break any Guiness Book records if you did marry. If both of you feel you know each other and trust each other...with him going to the Army, maybe it is time
2007-02-26 21:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very proud of him he is a brave man.Thanks from all of us. Be supportive to your fiance & true to him.See how thing are when he gets home.It will be a while.Trying times ahead. Best of luck
2007-02-26 21:44:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋