My daughter has a friend that is seriously depressed and he wants me to talk to his mother for him. I have never met his mother and have only talked to him over the phone. As a mother my self I think I would be mad if some stranger told me something bad about my child, so my question is.... How do I tell this woman her son needs help? He needs help soon but doesn't want me to tell her until he's ready, but I feel that I should intervene quickly before he starts cuttin himself again. I need serious advice so I can help this kid! Please!
2007-02-26 13:16:21 · 8 answers · asked by abcmom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would be incredibly grateful if someone came to me to tell me that my child was in need of help if I hadn't been aware of it in the first place.
As part of this child's "village", it is your duty to help him if you are able, and it sounds like you are definitely able.
From the mother of a suicide attempt and depression survivor, I implore you to speak up for this child. You have no idea how rare it is for a child to actually ASK for the help. Please talk to his mother.
You'll be in my thoughts.
2007-02-26 13:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can help without letting it seem so obvious. For instance, you can call the Mom and let her know what a great friend her child is to yours and share some antics they do while in your presence. Then you can bring up the fact that the great kid seems depressed and has admitted to such. Then you can share some stats like a lot of depressed kids cut, and the worst they may commit suicide. So hopefully the mom would be receptive and help her child.
2007-02-26 13:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Grace St. Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how your child became friends with this kid, school, church, or some social activity. I would suggest, if it were school, you get in touch with the Guidance Counselor ASAP. If it is through church, talk to your Youth Pastor, or Pastor, whichever is available. If it is just through some social activity such as meeting in the community then the burden lies upon your shoulders to contact this parent immediately. The only way to go is be honest in how you know these things. Cutting is no joke. I have a friend who almost died when she accidentally cut too deep into her arms. Please get help for this kid and soon.
2007-02-26 13:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this kid is willing to ask a stranger for help like this its serious, what his mother thinks doesnt matter, if he is this desperate he may be considering suicide and needs help now. I used to be depressed, even once when I was 6 and I wouldnt ever have dreamed of asking for help, but lucky for me my mom noticed and got me some help. Ive never considered actually killing myself but I can tell you being depressed hurts really bad. what his mom thinks shouldnt matter compared to the pain he must be feeling right now.
2007-02-27 12:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Silent Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been where you are that is how i got my first foster son
you call her and just explain the situation : your child and mine are Friends and your child was comfortable enough to talk to me about his problems and felt that i could better explain to you what he is feeling and as a mother if my child felt safe talking to you i would begraetful that you let me know there was a problem with my child
as parents we have to share our children with other people and some times your child will feel more comfortable telling others what is going on in there life i keep in touch with all of my children's Friends parents so that i not only know what my child is doing but i can let other parents know
it sounds like he wants you to help him an as a parent you have a responsablity to help
2007-02-26 14:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he asked you to talk to his mother, you should. He is crying for help and you might be able to intervene before its to late. God might be using you as a tool to get through to this childs mother.
Let her know that you are telling her because her son is asking for help and wants you to tell her. Whatever you tell her about her son is because you are concerned for her son and dont want anything to happen to him. Let her know that if she wants you to help that your there to help her.
2007-02-26 13:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by italianmami7447 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her now. you could be saving the kids life. she should be happy that you are telling her. just tell her that you are concerned about him and think she should talk to him and get him some help. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-26 13:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wish i could help
2007-02-26 14:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋