im 13....... and i think i am PLZ HELP!
2007-02-26 13:14:13 · 12 answers · asked by yumbearz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When you're going through puberty, your mind starts changing as well as your body, and you're going to see almost everything differently.
That said, what you feel at this age should be taken seriously. It may not be your path for life, but you mean it at the moment. Do you want to know something else? Many adults come out at 30 or 40 or 50. They think they're going through a "phase," too.
2007-02-26 13:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it depends on the subject... each one is different... One can be mature being 15 and other can be a child even if he or she is 25. So, it would be not wise to say that in this or that age range it's a phase, and above it, it's not and you are gay or bi.
But then... I agree, you are quite young. In your case it can be a phase. But if you turn 21 and still are feeling atracted to your same sex.... and enjoying it... I daresay, you are gay or bi.
Calm down!! you won't get any better by stressing yourself like that. If this is a phase, that's OK, it will go as it came. If it's not a phase, that's OK!! you can't help it and listen: IT'S NOT BAD. Only thing you can do about it is accept it or reject it. But not now. We can't tell at your age.
Greetings!!!!
2007-02-27 11:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ces 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people being gay is natural, and they have always known that they were gay. They just didn't have the opportunity to either A) Express it or B) Understand it. If there is something missing when you look at boy sexually, and you just can't put your finger on it. Or if you feel as though when you are with a women that that is the most comfortable situation for you, then you may be gay. Its different for everyone. Earlier I gave an answer about how I knew I was gay. Here is the link to that answer. Its the really long one by "Interlunium." Maybe this may help you. Also, if you live in a city or a town with a GLBT program at the schools or at least a Youth Pride organization, you may want to get involved or at least stop in. You might be able to get some helpful insight.
Here is the link: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuGjzLDNVMYe24caRvAOlLLsy6IX?qid=20070226142159AAdLKdr&show=7#profile-info-KMAu2lEMaa
2007-02-26 22:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was well aware of my sexuality by age 13, however, I wasn't fully convinced in my mind I was. In retrospect, I knew I was gay as far back as 6 years old, I just didn't have a clue what it meant. It wasn't until I was 20 that I acted on my sexuality and met another guy.
You have a lot of tools at your disposal that I never had when I was 13, in 1989. The internet is an excellent way to chat with other gay boys across the country who are in your age range, and have similar feelings as you.
Do not tell your parents until you are comfortable with your sexuality, and are prepared to deal with whatever reaction they might have - positive or negative. I did not tell my parents about my sexual orientation until I was in my early 20's but I have friends that had that conversation as early as 15. It truly is a personal choice and all about your comfort level and how your relationship is with your parents.
2007-02-26 22:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay is not a phase, I realized I was gay at 12, and 2 years later I'm still falling in love with guys so I'm assuming I'm gay =/. Dude, it's okay, it takes time to get used to, but sort out your feelings for guys first, if being gay is a phase for you, then you were never gay to begin with, and hey if you are, get used to it, if you want tell some of your closest friends, and when you're ready, you can come out. But before you tell your parents (and not to scare you) I'd figure out how they feel about gays... like my mom was cool with it, but I'd never tell my dad (thank god I don't live with him). It's completely normal and you'll learn to live with it if you are. Also if you have any questions about like how I found out and such, just e-mail me, my address is jedilounge1@yahoo.com so, good luck k?
2007-02-26 21:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by jedilounge1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never a phase. You don't wake up one morning and say oh wow today I think I'm going to turn gay. No matter what the religious right tells you . And you can't stop being gay and go straight.
Gay is hard wired into you from birth and kids know from toddlerhood that they are ' different' from their friends or sibs.
With the way gays are treated in society who would wake up and choose to be gay?
2007-02-26 21:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are asking me to psycho-analyse you. I can't. I won't. You are asking a personal development question, not a 'gay' question.
You are 13. There is plenty of time. Why force yourself to be a sexual being at age 13? You're not even done with puberty yet. Relax. Enjoy the last few moments of innocence and worry about sex in a couple of years.
2007-02-26 21:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ask Ashley 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
All these people, so far, have given you very good advice and insight. Many from their own personal life experience. Some have kindly given their e-mail to help you further. There is really nothing more I can add to this except that I am impressed with their sincere careing and kindness. Talk more with the ones who offered their time.
good luck....and good - life to you!
2007-02-26 22:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U like women too?? maybe ur just bi? but if ur 13 and think ur gay then ur gay dude! now a days no one even cares!
2007-02-26 21:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by gspaypal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being gay is not a phase, its ok that your gay
2007-02-26 21:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by fitboyfitboyfitboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋