Hi I'm new here, but I need your help. Like 3 months ago my abusive bf raped me and I found out I'm pregnant. I'm really afraid to go home to my parents and tell them that I'm pregnant because they trust that I'm doing well in school and not worrying about guys of any sort at the moment. All my life they've told me "school first boys later" and I'm afraid that if I tell them I was raped they really won't believe me. I'm not with my bf anymore, but he still bothers me ALOT. To the point where it scares me and makes me cry. And I really don't know what to do about this baby. I dont want to get an abortion, but I want to be able to finish school normally. Can you help me please?
2007-02-26 13:12:03 · 18 answers · asked by Amerlie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 19 by the way.
2007-02-26 13:12:37 · update #1
My parents used to tell me the samething "school first, boys later" also. But then I met a very responsible, understanding man. We moved in together, so my mother and I talked about if I were to get pregnant. I thought she would be pissed if I even mentioned it, but she was actually pretty nice about it. She said "you know I want a lot of grandchildren, but not right now. BUt if you do get pregnant, then that is okay. I will be here to coach you through the whole pregnancy." so maybe you should go home, write a letter to your parents about how you met that boy, how you two have been since you've been together, talk about how he was abusive and raped you, then talk about how he still scares you and you are pregnant. give them the note and tell them to wait until they finish reading it to say anything. They may be alittle upset, but they care about you, and want to know what's going on your life and they want to be there for you, even if oyu think they will resent you for it. If you do decide to have this baby (rather than giving him/her up for adoption) then YES you can finish school normally. Dont let anyone tell you different. There are many many women/men who have finished school with children. Just stay motivated. Also with that boyfriend of yours, I would press charges. Take pictures of any marks on your body and maybe you should go to the gyno and tell them you have been raped and they will look for any type of DNA. Take legal actions and lock that a*shole up. We dont need boys like him running around espcially if you still feel your life is in danger. Good luck!
2007-02-26 13:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww hunni my heart goes out to you when i was 14 i got raped by a 24 yr old and i found out i was pregnant but i had to tell my mum and i was gnna have an abortion but i miscared any way.. but i think you should go to the police coz i didnt and really wish i did because people like that shoudnt be able to walk the streets i really think you should tell you parents beacuse just renember none of this is your fault babe and i dont think they will be mad and i know its horrible going over it all again but if you need to talk to me my addy is mini_minx_laura@hotmail.com i promise you i will try and help you coz iv been through it awell hunni take care you can talk to me any time xx
2007-02-27 03:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to talk to your Parents...They will be disappointed this has happend but will be there for you* They will tell you to call the Police if it wasn't consentual* and was Rape*...he will be charged and go to jail. You need to speak up ...and allow your parents to be there for you and help you through this. Not sure how far along you are if 3months ago your b/f raped you...but you should still be able to finish this year of school but you'll be showing*
This guy needs to be charged for raping you! and harrassing you*! GO SPEAK TO YOUR PARENTS AND THE POLICE*!GOodLucK*
2007-02-26 14:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify the police and file charges against him. Pretty simple to me. And why wouldn't your parents believe you? Have you given them reason not to believe you in this type of situation before? I just don't get it. Besides, they are not responsible for you anymore. You are over 18 and considered an adult. If you plan of having the baby, either give it up for adoption, or decide to raise a child. But, make sure you are willing to dedicate yourself to your baby. Don't expect your parents to raise your child. It's your responsibility. Not theirs.
2007-02-26 14:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents and the police.
Your fear of this man is his power.
Talking to someone will lessen this power and you will find that you have the strength to cope with this.
Please press charges so that he cannot do this to anyone else.
Don't let him make you a victim all your life.
Your parents will be shocked and angry, but it won't be anger directed at you, it will be at the jerk who did this to you.
Please allow your parents in and let them help out here. If this had happened to my daughter I would want her to tell me, I wouldn't want her to be going through this without my knowledge...your parents are probably the same. Open your heart to them and let them know what happened. Your parents are going to believe you...why would you want to make this up?
2007-02-26 13:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to get help. At this time in your life, you need all the support you can. Tell your parents, I really think they will believe you. School first boys later does not apply to rape. Please get help!
2007-02-26 14:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. They need to know this information.
Next, consider adoption. There are millions of families out there who want a child but just cannot have. If you become friendly enough, you will definitely not be scared to give your baby to this family. Good luck!!
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2007-02-26 13:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to your parents and the police about this. They police will take care of your ex boyfriend. Your parents will understand that you are scared as much as they are. Before it's too late you can get a abortion. I'm sorry to hear that you were raped.
-Fredo
2007-02-26 13:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Alaina 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
go home and speak to your parents they love you and would be devastated that you are going through this by yourself. then get them to help you cause what he did is not right and you need to speak to the police. you are old enough to know what he did was wrong and you should of spoke up earlier please go see your mum and dad if not go see your school social worker or some one that is going to able to help you right now
2007-02-26 13:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by kristal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋