Okay...So I had a pretty wild night with a guy that is 24, and I might add i am a minor. A month later I found out I was pregnant from him! I talked to him and he insisted i have an abortion and he would pay for it because i was to young! I had no choice I had to have an abortion or he would go to jail for statutory rape, and lose his little boy! I dont know if what i did was right...but i feel like crap! I hate my life, and all i want is to have a baby now! The sad part is he did absolutely nothing, because he claims he couldn't, while i was going through hell, he was out partying! I asked him to do me a favor and he refused, he wont even pay me back!!! What should i do? I find it so hard to get over him....he told me everything i wanted to hear so i would have an abortion and leave him alone! At points he has even admitted to not believing that i was pregnant from him, he literally called me a whore, when i lost my virginity to him! BUT PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME I DUNNO WHAT TO DO!
2007-02-26 13:04:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm not normally a fan of rushing to press charges for statutory rape, but with a guy bullying you into an abortion, not even paying for same, calling you a whore, etc, I think it's worth considering charging him. He's clearly not fit to own a dick. How will you feel when he does the same thing to another kid?
2007-02-26 22:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss !
Sometimes in life things happen to people that are not fair, I can only imagine what you are going trought !and that you fell alone with the difficult choice that you were made to do .
It's too late to look back now on the action that you have chosen to undertake and now you feel so alone and full of guilt . You have been used by a man that only cared about is life and not the life that he had ended.
My dear as you said, you must be very young ! But if I was in your place I would stop the relationship with this man and take another path in life, such as getting a good education find a good job and meet a man that deserves to be called a good father for your children I am certain that by asking the public hands and support you are a girl that has learned a very harsh lesson in life and I wish you the best for a brighter future.
2007-03-05 08:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by bornfree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this is not the first time he has done this. I want to say I am sorry, I am sure it was devistating! You will think about it someday and be greatful though, this guy would not have been the father you wanted for you baby! espicially at a young age, being a new mother is hard and having to do it alone it just crazy! I am totally pro-life and I personally could never have an abortion. However, I dont think you should hate life becaue you were forced into it. Eventually you will find the right man and he will take care of you and your baby. Take care and keep your head up!
2007-03-05 13:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by QUICK_QUESTION 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree wtih what alot of anwserers are telling you...it IS statutory rape, and it IS your right to press charges. Yes, it does take two to tango, but this man is older than you, and should've known better than to even try to persuade a minor into sex. He is a predator. He belongs in jail, and the fact that he guilt-tripped you into having an abortion just to save his sorry butt from jail proves that he KNOWS what he did was the wrong thing! You can press charges on him, and you should. He's been such a cold hearted, callous jerk to you right now, and you don't deserve that...especially after the huge 'emotional' and physical 'favor' (aborting your child) that you just did for him. Give him his paybacks, press charges, and get that child molesting scumbag off the streets. Look at it from YOUR point of view, not his. He won't lose his little boy, his little boy has a mother. You should contact the authorities, tell your parents, and seek counseling. Don't let this man ruin your self worth, and your life. You are not a whore, you were seduced and manipulated by a predator...a sexual deviant creep. He is the one with the problem. Please, do the right thing here. I know it is hard to take that first step, but once you do, the rest will come easy. You deserve justice, and peace of mind. God bless you...please keep us up to date on what you are going to do!
2007-03-05 03:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to seek guidance... a counselor, a trusted adult, a parent, whoever. I understand you're confused, hurt, and overwhelmed. I would be too!
Secondly, you NEED to seek legal advice.
I'm the first person to say that "it takes two" and to stand up for your mistakes, but this guy sounds like a textbook predator and he took advantage of a minor. At 24, he's a mature adult and he knew exactly what he was doing when he met you. It was in his control to walk away, and he chose not to.
He WILL do this to other girls if he hasn't already... I truly think you should consider the favor you'll be doing in preventing this from happening to others in your situation.
Lastly, please know that you happened to run into the scum of the earth. He is NOT typical of a "real man". There are a lot of scuzzy guys out there, but there are some really great guys too, so please don't develop a grudge against them all.
(Also, if you haven't already, please go get yourself tested for STDs. I think the health clinic can do it for free and the results should be confidential. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache by just making sure you're okay.)
2007-03-02 13:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by sublimekindalife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had an abortion whilst i replace into 15 years previous and that i be apologetic approximately it so undesirable i'm unable to tell you procedures lots i think of roughly it. every time I hear the word abortion my coronary heart stops and that i've got confidence so terrible. i'm placing out to cry superb now and thanks to this i prefer to tell you please don't have an abortion, and rather do not do it because of the fact of your boyfriend. tell him you prefer to have the abortion and permit him pay so you might pass abode. in case you pass abode then you definately will not be able to pass to reformatory. they won't arrest you while you're actually not interior the country. So leave the country as quickly as you are able to and pass abode and characteristic your infant. once you get abode and away out of your boyfriend you are able to tell him which you're retaining it. and you will could stay removed from that u . s . a . so they won't arrest you in case you come. in case you have an abortion you would be apologetic approximately it like I do.
2016-10-16 13:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats sad. I am sorry to hear that. But what you did, there was a reason for. You wouldn't of gone through the abortion if there was not some type of emotional grief in there. It's to late to go back, and your boyfriend will have to move on and so will you. Good Luck.
2007-03-04 13:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your reality check honey. And I'm glad you had the abortion. No more sex when your drunk or high. And no more sex without a condom. A relationship should come first. This guy took advantage of you REMEMBER THAT.Don't hate him or love him. Thank him for teaching you the lesson that your special and he's a loser. Yeah he took your virginity but don't let him have your sanity. move on your worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 10:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard to let go of some one, but if he is willing to sleep with a miner then he is no good and he has no respect for kids
(that is someone i wouldnt want to have a kid with)
just ask the lord (in prayer) to help u to understand and help u heal quickly.. always believe in the lord, it helped me alot
2007-03-06 06:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the police, and charge him for it. He needs to stop and trust me you are not the only one that he would do that. Don't even let go, make him pay for it. Good luck
2007-03-06 07:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋