Should I quit this friendship?

Question

If somebody who used to care about you drifted apart and never replies your messages and you're the only one who calls and tries to keep the friendship going, should you quit and move on?

They still answer your calls though. They don't reject them. You have good converstaions most of the time.

I know friendship is about give and take. But if one person gives too much then he/she might lose respect from the other party, right? So what should I do? Does that mean he/she is just being nice but couldn't care less whether you still consider him/her as a friend?

Okay, here's the facts: he used to be my friend from work -> the company shut down -> we lost our jobs, but still kept in touch -> got a lot closer -> became an item -> drifted apart -> broke up -> now we've both got different jobs -> can't stop thinking about him -> back to being just friends.

Is this a sign of me being no longer welcome? What should I do? I feel so silly asking this *blush*

Answer 1

Hmmm, sounds like he's losing out on a good thing. It sounds as though the friends to lovers sting has stung you. Statistically, most friendships that turn into intimate relationships don't survive the reincarnation of friendship. Getting through having had that emotional bond and reverting back to "acceptable" friendship bond is extremely difficult for alot of people. Sounds like you should probably move on and wait to see if he contacts you. You don't stand to gain anything but grief from extending the effort.

Answer 2

It takes 2 or more people to make a friendship work and if only one person is applying their self then the friendship isnt going to work you have to both or all apply yourself to make it work. Im not saying drop you friend or friends like they are nobody but i am saying you do not have to try really really hard to keep a friendship going and you surely dont have to when the other friend really isnt trying

Answer 3

I even have an habit it extremely is or grow to be fantastically severe. besides the undeniable fact that my boyfriend and that i are nevertheless collectively now, interior the previous this habit grow to be the two our addictions and it did some severe harm to our dating. My boyfriend no longer in basic terms stop his 2 addictions that he had yet he additionally stop his acquaintances besides. The seriousness of my contemporary habit isn't as bead because of fact the previous or maybe nonetheless I even have it on top of issues i visit at last be rid of it thoroughly. i've got self assurance it relies upon on you and how solid you're which would be certain the capability of your friendship. besides the undeniable fact that it is the "rule" once you stop your habit you may stop your persons. I even have self assurance that an occasional occasion is okay as long as you do no longer fall off the wagon. You by no potential comprehend, your sobriety ought to grow to be somebody elses habit. meaning sobriety ought to help others besides. solid success

Answer 4

Thats up to you what you want to do.....


I would drift another current, but that's only my opinion. No need to haggle over anything or waste a lot of energy over this person. Move on and forget about it .

Answer 5

im sorry to say its time to just move on instead of getting hurt more..why i went thru the same thing.till this day i dont know why she just stopped being my friend..i mean we were really close[no sex] but really there for each other,i never got a answer...gl girl

Answer 6

i dont think its a sign of not being welcome...maybe he just moved on...im thinking he still sees you as a friend but not a close..due to the fact that he dated you..you catch my drift?...just give it some time...or if your feeling adventurous talk to him about it..talk to him..let him understand...

Answer 7

He is just being cordial to you. You had your fun. Now let it go and move on with your life.

Answer 8

ask them whats up ?tell them you feel you need to talk and get some answers

Answer 9

just let it go.