Can a girl with all three of the characteristics be popular? I am really shy and quiet. Guys seem to not talk to me or are afraid of me. I am nerdy because I get good grades and care about work. I was told I am good looking by many (though I really don't think I am and I hate saying this about myself). Is there something wrong with me?
2007-02-26 12:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
why would you want this?
If you start talking more with people they will get to know you, get out of your comfort zone, and speak up... You need to stay yourself. you aren't nerdy, you just care, you are smart.
2007-02-26 12:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra :D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look inside of yourself. Do you really think your not good looking. Of course you are a beautiful person In and Out. People have a tendency to be afraid because of your intellegence. Men feel inadequate because of it. That doesn't mean youhave a problem.
They are the ones with the problem. They don't know how to cope.
Carry on with your good grades. Sooner or later they are the ones that are going to be coming to you for help. Now that;s a big plus for you. Only don't let them take advantage, that can sometimes happen.
Look at it in a positive way. there is absolutly nothing wrong with. You just need alittle more confidence. Have you thought of taking up a sport like tennis or learning to dance ( salsa/ tango etc.)
Something that will make you feel great.
2007-02-26 13:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES! You must be smart since you get good grades. When you hear some one say how hard an assignment is, offer some insight as to why you found it easy. Don't offer to help right away and I am sure you know not to do their work for them. Please be proud of being the smart kid and know that boys may be a bit intimidated, but you should always use your brain to your best advantage. "Shy" can also be thought of as 'reserved' or i"ntrospective." (And remember a closed mouth gathers no foot!) "Nerdy"..is BRAINY. As Bill Gates said, "Be nice to Nerds, one of them may be your boss one day"
You might try a bit of LIGHT make up if your parents say it is okay, just some mascara and a bit of lip gloss can really make you sparkle.
Many women have worked hard to pave the way for you to be a pilot, polititian. doctor, statesperson, scientist, whatever you imagine. None of the women in the news got there by pretending to be less than they are. Keep hittng the books and we will see YOU making the news one day!
2007-02-26 13:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by tlcats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you..and beauty is in the eye of the beholder..regardless of popularity. To have inner beauty is the most important goal in this life. If you care about your work, than you are not "Nerdy", you are smart...because ten years from now, while those who thrive on outward appearances struggle to find jobs after the beauty of youth leaves, Your brains will have you looking forward to the Golden Years with the bliss and security provided by what you learned while you thought you weren't noticed..(by the handsome man who asked you to marry him because he knew you were wonderfully modest and smart)....So in conclusion, Yes...you could be popular..but would it matter how popular you are if you left to an Ivy League College tuition paid due to academic achievement?
2007-02-26 13:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Forgotten Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High school is hard and people think way too much. I actually started talking to some people I went to high school with recently. I graduated in 1996, so haven't seen these people in over 10 years. Anyways, I always thought that I was a nerd and no one really liked me. But these people were like, "What? No! I thought you were so pretty and funny and blah blah blah." So, I missed so many opportunities b/c I didn't think it was worth the rejection. So, I say go for it! Just be nice to this guy and smile. Don't force yourself onto him, but open yourself up for him to ask for your number and just try to be friends with him. Stay a good person and stay true to yourself. This could end up being a great friend, or more. Don't put too much thought into it though. Maybe he doesn't want to date you, but you can go into the situaion with -maybe we could be friendly and maybe he will remember you after graduation and maybe in 8 years you run into him again and he remembers you and then you start something.
2016-03-29 02:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you're not nerdy, you just want to do well in school. If you're shy, you should try to be more social. Popularity is when you have a lot of people that like you. You dont want to be like all the mean popular girls in the movies because for them, life isnt as great as it seems.
2007-02-26 12:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by George P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you need to ask yourself : why do you want to be popular. Is it because of your ego? To get attention? The world is full of has been beauties and ex hangers on. Why not concentrate instead on your future and learn those skills you will need to face life after school. Those skills which will enable you to be master of your own destiny.
2007-02-26 13:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl listen up!! first of all your beautiful because it sounds like to me you are beautiful inside.... it's all about having confidence, that same confidence you have right before your about to take a test that is the same confidence you have talking to people... be who you are!! love yourself and embrace who you are!! and if you want to feel more girlie go once in a while to get a manicure and pedicure, go to the salon and get some beautiful highlights in your hair, and go shopping at Aldo's and pick yourself up some cute boots, and go to express or the limited and get a nice outfit!! good luck!
2007-02-26 13:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loool nerdy and good looks can lead to popularity but shyness is the problem her...she needs to get over that. She's got beauty and knowledge....but her shyness limits her :(
2007-02-26 12:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by iammeandyouarenoone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...your not nerdy..your dedicated.
the actual meaning of popular is when people like you
now if your not that nice that would be a different story, but i don't think you are so there is definintly nothing wrong with you
2007-02-26 12:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋