I am 33wks pregnant to my fiance, with our first child. My fiance is truly wonderful and i love him to death. I know he sometimes gets a bit frustrated though - what with my mood swings and stuff but he takes everything so well. My sex drive has decreased though so we are only having sex, on average, about twice a week (different to the two/three times a day it once was! lol). Even with this though, he is very understanding...although not exceptionally happy i imagine! lol.
I was wondering, from guys who have been where my fiance is right now, what would you have liked your partner to have done more of? I really don't have the energy to increase the sex frequency, which we've always used as a way to express our love and desire for eachother, but i want to do things for him that show him he is loved and appreciated. He is forever fussing over me, i just want to be able to return the favour.
Thanks :)
2007-02-26 12:42:58 · 19 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a bloke honey I can tell you we fantasise about oral sex. number one, help him to live out his fantasy's. but you are pregnant, that should not worry him for sex is OK, with pregnant woman. marriage of 23 1/2 years has taught me to be patient.
but look after yourself and baby first.
you are his princess, make the bastard marry you. he is so unfair to treat you so badly out of marriage. bye
peace.
2007-02-27 03:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ignatious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, for lots of marriages, two times a week is a dream come true. Don't worry so much! I know you're emotional right now so you can't help it :-p but your fiance is fussing over you because he loves you and wants to, and it's probably a little exhausting for him to do so too, so he may be welcoming the extra rest he's getting. Just try and let him know with your words and small acts of kindness how much you genuinely appreciate all of the wonderful things he does for you.
2007-02-26 20:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we've always used as a way to express our love and desire for eachother"
You need to find a different way of expressing your love for each other. Sex is great, but right now it's not the best way to show your love for each other. Having sex be the ONLY way you express the love you have for each other is going to get you into hot water fast.
Learn his love language--talk to him about it. There's a book by Gary Chapman (Coleman maybe? Something with a C) about it, and it's a great way to figure out ways to better understand your partner.
2007-02-26 20:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other ways to express your love for each other. My husband and I go fishing (which he loves and I like) but I do it because he does so much for me and is a wonderful husband. I know fishing isnt exactly "lovey" but find something he loves to do and do it too. Just not sex. And when the baby comes good luck getting the 2 times a week in.
2007-02-26 21:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by chantakg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to express your love for him, sex just seems to be the easy way for both parties. Get his mind of it, by TELLING him to go to the pub and to come home in however long, where dinner could be waiting for him. Do something for him, without him asking for it and you should be right. Otherwise do what you think is best. That is always the best way.
2007-02-27 00:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think sex is going down now wait until the baby is born. All you can do is the best you can do. Being pregnant is not easy and you are lucky to have a guy that understands.
2007-02-26 20:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know you appreciate him. There isn't a lot you feel like doing right now, but someday he will be sick with the flu and you can take care of him. Just make sure he knows that you won't always be this moody and eventually your sex drive will reappear.
2007-02-26 20:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well both of you need to understand each other's situation. He needs love, but he needs to hold off a little bit. And you need to do what you can to make him happy, why don't you two perform something that will involve less work for you, like him on top. Good luck with your troubles.
2007-02-26 20:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by max k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blowjobs. LOTS of blowjobs. That'll take the pressure off of him to make you ***, you can get the whole business over with a lot quicker, you don't have to find any weird positions where the baby isn't getting squished, and he's likely to be very grateful and endeared to you. Promise to keep it up, and he might even marry you before the baby arrives.
2007-02-26 20:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make him a special dinner or take a shower with him and wash his back my wife and I take baths together although thats a little hard in your condition.....Maybe a card and buy him something special.
2007-02-26 20:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋