my friend is cheating on his gf with my best friend. His gf and him are together for just over 2yrs and she's away on hollidays for 2months. I work with them both. My best friend kissed him but then after said that she was really guilty and sorry and i asked her never to do it again bcoz it puts me in the middle. After that they slept together again and at my house after i fell asleep on the sofa. i feel reallly mad and upset with my best friend for disrespecting me and doing the one thing i asked her not to (in my hse) and also at him bcoz i asked him not to aswell. My best friend has also only jus gotten out of a 11yr relationship bcoz her ex cheated. What should i do? if i tell her it will be akward at work and i might lose my friendship with everyone plus i know him longer than his girlfriend. i still haven't told them how mad i am right now i feel like i don't really wanna see them for a long time. should i say something??
2007-02-26 12:15:05 · 4 answers · asked by fleur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thats just so wrong. tell your friend straight up that that is messed up and that does he really even love her at all? she knows he's taken and shouldnt even think about interfering, especially since theyve been going out for such a long period of time. you should steer her in the right direction, and tell your guy friend that he is really "demented" and he's just plain dum. he's just at your friend for sex
2007-02-26 12:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by dubbLe x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out who is doing the wrong, and who isn't. Warn the ones who are doing wrong, so they know and have a choice. Then if nothing happens act on it.
Your cheating friends can't be mad at you if you tell them, "Hey I don't like what you're doing, that's something I'm really not cool with. You've put yourself in a position where you're hurting one of my friends. If you don't stop or fix this yourself I'm going to have to do something about it." Then they know, and can't complain when you actually do. You also have a set of events that took place, so to the one who's being cheated on you tried to right the situation and were with them the entire time, until you became the messenger.
Same situation happened to me, I told my cheating friend, "Hey just so you know. I'm not cool with it, and I'm not on your side, so if something happens. Understand that I'm going to be against you." Then I told the other person what was happening, I called him back so he could hear from my mouth I said, "Hey I told them everything. I already told you I was going to do this. So now they hate you, the ball's in your court now." he said, "I understand." and they resolved things on their own. I never lost either of their trust or friendship.
2007-02-26 12:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Ninth Cut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how mad you are. yell if you must. then tell him to tell his girlfriend or you will. that should help them understand what they have done. then put some distance between you and them. it will give you time to cool down. when you feel they have learned their lesson slowly talk to them. see how that works.
2007-02-26 12:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them ur upset at their behavior and its wrong,and nothing good is coming out of it..they need to straighten out there life
2007-02-26 12:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋