Is it ok with a male or a female?

Question

If me and my Husband decide on a 3 some, is that good to bring in a male or a female with us? Why?

Answer 1

Sometimes Fantasies are better left to the imagination, they are safe and without emotion just pure lust. When a real person enters the equation things could get ugly and you may find yourself feeling betrayed, and or cheapened.

If you insist that this is right for you, keep in mind that no matter which sex you bring in, you will be the one doing all the "work."

An alternative suggestion would be to find another couple with voyeuristic tendencies such as yourself and just have sex in the same room but no swappy. This way you can watch and vicariously have sex with someone other than your spouse without all the emotional problems that would occur if you were to actually do it.

Answer 2

A threesome is never okay no matter what you chose to do. Do not do this and work on just being happy with your spouse in your bed. A third person will only bring problems to the marriage and relationship and what about STD's and or unwanted pregnancies by it? If it was a guy he could get your pregnant with his child or a female could become pregnant by your husband.

Answer 3

None. What if the guy has ten inches and can last for an hour? What if the girl is a 32DD and swallows daily? You will damage your relationship. Don't do this. What if you get a woman and you decide to change sides? What if you get a guy and your husband decides to change sides? Many, many downsides, not a lot of upsides.

Stick with you two. There are a lot of possibilities. Go with light bondage or semi-private locations if you want to step out.
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Answer 4

Everybody above has made some very good points here.All of these has to be thought of carefully before actually having a threesome.One other thing to think of is this.After the threesome and everybody is happy what happens next.If this worked for you this time and you start doing it often soon it will become boring also.Where do you go next? What other activity will satisfy you next time?Before you jump into the life style maybe you should look far enough ahead to see just what happens next.Where will this lead you and will it be worth it when you get there.

Answer 5

Hi there, I am an executive assistant for romance specialists, and sex guru is the title they gave me, honestly talk about what you are both more comfortable with male or female, alot of guys dream of threesoms with two girls. other men are okay with having a guy as long as they dont touch them. either way you decide, try to make sure its not a friend, try to be a stranger but not too strange, like audition. there is a great site for this subject to pick people and interview xpeeps.com

Answer 6

It's hard either way... feelings are fragile, emotions tend to get in the way. What if you like her/him better? What if he likes him/her better?!? You never know until it happens, then it's too late. Being a man, I would say bring in a girl, but who's to say that's right for your relationship? What are your feelings about seeing him with someone else? Seriously seeing him do what he does to you, to someone else... He's gonna like it, period. It's exciting and new, but that wears off... quick.
Good luck.

Answer 7

That depends on you and your husband. Most men would love to have another women. Just be careful when or if you go though the 3some thing. He might like it and want to do it alot more times.

Answer 8

Doesn't matter either way you're relationship is screwed. Three ways are like crack. Good when you do it, but the side effects are hell.

Answer 9

a 3-some is definitely not Okay.

Sooner or later, the ugly

Jealousy monster will rear its ugly head.

Answer 10

Try Each! That way you can see which you like better or you could consider swapping too