My husband is 16yrs older than me and he does not like to do things with me. I wish we went out to dinner, a movie, or just anything where we could spend time. I need to get out and do something social, but I feel bad. I like spending time with him. I am also told that it is healthy for me to go out and have some clean fun. What's your input?
2007-02-26 12:05:40 · 24 answers · asked by metalwife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your ages have nothing to do with this. You are married but you're not in jail. You should be able to go to a movie or dinner with friends as long as it's innocent.
Why don't you surprise your husband and make some reservations at a nice restaurant and take him out? If he really not willing to go out, you sure have every right to have a social life. Try to include him as much as possible when you can.
2007-02-26 12:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course its ok togo out with your friends. Everyone needs time away from one another it makes it more special when your back together. My question would be is why doesn't he like to do things with you? people need some kind of enjoyment in life and just because your married doesn't mean you give up your freedom. the old ball and chain expersion is dead. your husband does though need to take you out once in awhile just to make you feel special but remember it has to work both ways. you also have to allow your husband to do things with his friends if not then this could be a problem. so enjoy your friends as long as he trust you and remember its ok to look just dont touch. LOL
good luck and don't stress just because your going out with your friends your doing nothing wrong.
KEL
2007-02-26 23:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by kelparks555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to have a girls night out from time to time or going to the movies or a dinner. It's all OK.
With your girlfriends you can be yourself and do the things you want.
About your husband, this is something he has to change, I don't think his age is the issue.
Tell him he has to do husband things, ask him.
2007-02-26 20:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lebelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he lets you feel that way then it is bad for you to be with him because he should learn that you also have a life. By the way you tell your story I think he is controlling. It is not bad to be hanging out with your friends if you're married. If you're happy with him then just do what you like and don't feel bad. You should know that you also have to be happy outside your married life. If he does not want to spend time with you outside then just be it, but if he is a jealous older man then I suggest that you should be carefull.
2007-02-26 20:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by singkit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say thay you certainly can go out with your girlfriends. It's clear you love your husband, but you need some time out of the house and be with friends. If he's not willing to go out with you, he shouldn't have a problem with you going out with your friends. Don't feel badly dear, it's normal. Your husband will still be in love with you when you get home. Go out and have some fun!
2007-02-26 20:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not wrong to go out with the girls! It is actually necessary. You guys are married for crying out loud. Don't you get tired of the same old same old? If he doesn't want to do anything that is his trip. Have fun! Don't feel guilty. Just remember that you love him.
2007-02-26 20:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by kv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Happily Married and I like to dance but my husband doesn't. So I occasionally go out with my sisters and their girlfriends. My husband is okay with this.
I dance with my sisters only not any men. That's just the way I feel and it doesn't send any mixed signals. I'm just there to enjoy myself. As long as there is understanding. I don't see anything wrong with it.
2007-02-26 20:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Red Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good for couples to have a night out with their friends. If there are children in the family,you can do different nights.But you should always allow time out with each other. It would help if you call every so often to let him know that you are o k.
2007-02-26 20:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by phockit47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course go out with the girls and have some fun. Your hubby is fine with it so why not you? It is good for couples to some separateness in their life. I am sure you hubby can find some things to do until you get home.
2007-02-26 20:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything you do without your husband and keep it from him is wrong. I agree everyone needs to get out and have a social life,married or not. But don't lie to him about it,whatever you do.
2007-02-26 20:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋