last year i was best friends with this group of gurls that were really mean to everybody outside of their circle. to everybody else, it was the coolest clique to belong to, but it really took alot to stay, everybody played a role in talking about people and that drama. when i tried to be friend with some new people the turned on me, they talked about me, made rumors, tried to fight me, threatened me, everything. it lasted for like 2 or 3 months. this year it hasn't happened but everybody is still holding grudges and they take every chance they can get to talk about me or something i believe in karma and think i should leave it alone. because in a few months i wont have to deal with it as much, if any, but i still feel bad, i lost a lot of "good" friends from it and i dont know what to do.
2007-02-26 11:53:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sweetie, if they were good friends they wouldn't have treated you that way. Let it be... You are right that karma takes place & soon they'll be on the other end. In life you don't want to be known as a gossip that nobody can trust & that's the name they are making for themselves.
I dealt with alot of that when I was in highschool because I was in cheer, a minority & had boobs. I was accused of sleeping around & stealing girl's boyfriends but yet I was still a virgin. The problem was the girls would get jealous & try starting trouble. These were normally girls I was friends with in the beginning that got mad because their boyfriends crushed on me. I wasn't allowed to date so it was just stupid.
Don't let them rule your life. You'll make new friends & they'll treat you like you should be treated. My mother used to tell me when I came home upset "These girls won't be in your life in a few years, so don't let them decide who you are. You be the better person & let it go."
2007-02-26 12:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends will come and go as do rumors. A friend who demands you to be someone you are not, is not a friend. Being popular isn't about pissing everyone else off. Those girls are only bringing others down because they are have too low self esteem. They feel that if everyone hates the ones they bring down, then, they will never feel that rejection and pain. What gives them popularity, and thus power to do this, is allowing yourself to play into their games. Let the rumors fly, and those girls learn for themselves true reality of only having friends that will turn on you. Move on and don't look back. A real friendship has security not scrutiny. You ultimately decide who you are going to be and is it worth it to be that insecure and in unease? Focus on being the person you want to be and you will build life long friendships, not lifelong social hang ups.
2007-02-26 12:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by ChenobieTiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow. You were one of the girls being mean to the less popular girls and now your on the outside looking in. You're right about Karma, cause it's just caught up with you. Tough lesson to learn, but at least you're young. You'll recover, just remember this lesson in college. There are cliques there too.
2007-02-26 12:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, with friends like that who needs enemies?? Look, part of being friends is understanding that sometimes other people just need to do their own thing. Obviously these girls don't understand that and i seriously think you're better off just staying away from them. People like that like to bring other people down to their level so that they don't feel insecure. These girls are probably insecure and think you don't want to be friends with them anymore. talking to other people besides them reinforces this and makes it worse. Speaking from experience, it does take a lot to keep up with these sort of people and i can tell you, it's really not worth the effort. You're better off finding friends who value you and your opinion and respect your right to talk to who ever you want. Ignore them and concentrate on not letting them get to you.
2007-02-26 12:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back.they arent good friends that u lost they are ur enemies, or should be.What good did they do?
1.turned back on u
2.were mean to evryone
3.talked about you.
4.threatened u
5.say stuff relating to u and karma
they are plain jerks(u must b in middle school in 1 year im going there and i hear lots of things about that)
2007-02-26 12:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by summerrr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just leave them alone and ignore them. Try to make new friends or try to tell them that you just want to be friends.
2007-02-26 12:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by hahababy@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IT WOULD BE BEST TO APOLOGIZE TO YOUR FRIENDS FOR BEING THE WAY THAT YOU WERE. THEN ASK TO START YOUR FRIENDSHIP OVER AGAIN FROM THE START.
2007-02-26 11:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by passion4fashion07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋