I heard through the grapevine that my step daughter had a baby shower last month.
With her first child my mom gave her a shower and invited both sides of her family (her mom and dads)
She did invite her brothers wives, but she has left them out before and I think they said something to her.
2007-02-26 11:52:33 · 9 answers · asked by kel_sew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't worry about it or sweat it, just give her a gift and be polite about it. And don't mention about not being invited because it will only add fuel to the fire. Keep peace.
2007-02-26 12:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step parents are not parents and are often perceived as an intrusion and often that is what they are. I would be upset only if the relationship was solid and then ignored. As a step you are ony in an obligated relationship with the person you married, not the children because they have no say in the divorce or the new marriage.
Society seems to think that divorce is "normal" when in fact it is the breaking of one of life's most serious promises. Parents divorce mainly in selfishness so if you were expecting the children to just love you anyway you expected too much.
You chose to intrude on a family and now you are on the outside. This is your problem to deal with as the children are under no obligation to accept you or love you.
You may be a great person but forgiveness in this area is hard to come by. Be thankful if they include you at all and don't place expectations on people who promised you nothing and owe you nothing, meaning your spouses children.
2007-02-26 12:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your relationship with your step daughter. If you are upset because you love her and she hurt you by not asking you...then you have a valid reason. If you don't have a close bond with her, and she didn't invite you...then I wouldn't be shaken by that. I know your mom threw her first one, and it IS rude not to ask you but generally, baby showers are a surprise. She may not even have known until the day of the party, and she may feel as upset as you do about it.
2007-02-26 11:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may have been the person that threw the shower that left you out and not her. I would ask her about it, ask if it was her and why she did it. If it was her I would be upset. I would be a little upset also that you had to hear it through the grapevine and not her.
2007-02-26 11:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might think of inviting the dad, stepmom and stepsiblings could be ok yet I wouldnt hardship approximately inviting something of them. You dont intend to make your special occasion annoying in view which you're thinking in the event that they'll initiate drama or something. Its a celebration of a sparkling existence and in the event that they have been to start drama at your infant bathe, for me, that could desire to be the top of the line by way of fact there are certian places the place you basically could desire to go away drama on the door. in case you do decide to ask them and that they create their drama with them in a well mannered way ask them to go away. I wouldnt hardship approximately inviting lots of them anyhow in view that they stay out of state. i'm hoping this facilitates. sturdy luck.
2016-09-29 23:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have several baby showers and this was a different group of friends. Don't be upset. She might have you planned for another party.
I had several baby showers, which were planned all by different people for me...so maybe this happened to her too?
2007-02-26 11:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not be upset. If you don't want me there, I dont' want to be there.
2007-02-26 11:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty rude! I would be hurt too.
2007-02-26 11:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by colinsmumplus1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be upset and ask her why she did that
2007-02-26 11:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋