I have been with my boyfriend for about 6.5years now and we want to settle down. My family like him but not for me(as hes a nice guy but i can do better for a life partner). They think im too good for him and i deserve someone who is a bit more focused and capable.
We both have fairly good,full-time permanent jobs( im an accountant and hes a chef). They keep telling to think before i go ahead and things that confuse me even more and upset me.
I have always been very close to my family and respect what they tell me...but im torn.
Have any of you been in this predicament before and what are your thoughts????
Any help will be appreciated!!!
2007-02-26 11:51:10 · 8 answers · asked by GenuineGemini 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow your heart. Only you know what is right for you. Your family may advise otherwise but they can't see the future and neither can you. If you feel it in your heart that it is the right thing then go for it! It's worth a shot. Your family may be uneasy at first but they will be understanding and accepting when they see the relationship working successfully. They may be under estimating his potential and can end up being surprised at his commitment to your life together.
2007-02-26 12:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents tell you to think before you go ahead...if you have been in this relationship for 6.5 years, you have already thought about this I believe :P. I have been in my relationship for two years and my parents feel similar. However, I think this has more to do with the fact that my parents are racist, ack. You choose your own path, not your parents. You may listen to their advice, but in the end, it's your decision, not theirs. You've probably heard that many times before but it's true. Also, he seems to have a nice job as a chef, as you've said. Anywho, not following their advice this time about your relationship doesn't mean that you'll never follow their advice again. And advice is just that, advice. It may influence your decision, but it doesn't dictate it.
2007-02-26 20:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel as long as you guys love each other, he treats you right, and is not a bum you should go ahead with your decision. They like him, and it seems that the only reason they have an opinion is he makes less $$ then you, so it is not their place to tell you anything about the man you choose. Your family will understand.
2007-02-26 20:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by kv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this person you'll go with your gut feeling. Your family don't have to live with him. Your family will respect your wishes in the end.
2007-02-26 20:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by RC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6.5 years you already know the answer.
What will please the family anyways, some guy you hate but meets there so called criteria.
From the heart > do you want to marry the guy or not ?
2007-02-26 20:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear.. do you really love him? This is your life partner you are talking about. I'm sorry but your family can't decide for u! I hoped I helped!
2007-02-26 19:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your life and although you value your family's opinion, you have the right to chose who you want to spend your life with. if you love him and you are happy that is all that matters.
2007-02-26 19:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right and tell your family that you are marrying him not them.lol
2007-02-26 19:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋