I am 22 yrs married for 3 yrs. He is 26 single and works with me for 6 months and a very sincere worker. Now a days I am getting attracted towards him a lot and think of him all the day. I dont find a good reason why I do so. I know clearly he has no special attraction for me and for him I am just a coworker in the office. Is my feeling normal? I do not have any sex feelings with him till date. Please help me out of this problem.
2007-02-26 11:42:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being that workers spend the majority of their waking hours (and they look best during that time) it's no wonder that you're attracted to this guy, and the fantasy that he offers. You never see him with his hair all messed up in the morning, he doesn't have any bad habits that drive you crazy, he's always in a relatively good mood . . . your husband, you see him at his best AND worst.
It's 100% normal to have a crush on a co-worker . . . it's taking it another step that you must be very very careful on . . . I would strongly advise against it.
Good luck . . . enjoy the fantasies as long as it doesn't drive a wedge in your marriage!
2007-02-26 11:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh I had the same problem - but I was married for 17 years, not 3. I didn't think that he was attracted to me, but then we went out of town together for a conference and he told me that me loved me, well we are now married.
It was probably the scariest feeling that I ever had -that feeling that I had when I was married to someone else yet had feelings for my friend/co-worker. I loved everything about him, but most all for the qualities that he had that my husband at the time was lacking.
So I just want to say be careful, if you are not happy in your marriage or if you are not I love with your husband, well then you could easily fall in love with someone else, that is what to me.
2007-02-26 12:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know working with someone over 8 hours a day, we spend more time with our co workers then our family's of course you are going to have feelings. Just remember that it is probably just a slight attraction because you are together so much.
2007-02-26 12:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by loulou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a very high profile position in IT and everyone used to come into my office to about office stuff. You will be surprised at all the attraction issue going on in an office. It is normal but you don't have to act on your impulses.
2007-02-26 12:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew this was going on. I won't say your real name but I want to let you know that I am flaattered about you having these feelings for me. But the truth is that I am 26 and not married for a reason and it is because I am waiting for the right girl.
That's what he would say if it was me. Hope that helped.
2007-02-26 11:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, it is normal to fall for a coworker, remember, you spend alot of time with your coworkers and it is normal to develop some type of bond with them, be carefull and don't do anything rash, it may be ok to have a crush, but do not do anything that will jeapordize your marriage
2007-02-26 11:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We spend so much of our day at work... it's normal to want to find something comforting and fun and possibly dangerous. Long as you don't act on it... I'd say you're fine.
2007-02-26 11:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To find someone attractive is ok. to be attracted to them is not.
2007-02-26 12:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
not unusual. Its a crush.
2007-02-26 12:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋