My boyfriend and was soon to b husband just left me 2 weeks ago for another girl and I'm pregnant I've told him and he dont seem to believe me I just called him up today and told him that we need to talk about things and he said that mabey well get together some time this week and talk what should I do If he dont want to work through things and he's told me before if I ever got pregnant and we wernt together and he's the babys daddy that he would take him/her away from me so I dont know what to do
2007-02-26 11:38:37 · 35 answers · asked by babygirl18_4sho 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Get married, then have children. That's usually the correct order. Looks like you'll have to find someone that will help you care for the little one. You've got to be sure you can find a man you can trust.
2007-03-05 10:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Morphage 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stay away from him altogether. He won't get the baby unless you are unfit, so stay clean and don't do anything stupid in the meantime. DOCUMENT every single thing he says to you, whenever he calls you, everything he's said in the past that may be threatening. If you have friends who have heard him, get them to document it for you too. Just keep it in case something comes up. It's hard to remember things after a while, no matter how hurtful they are and how much you are sure you'll never forget them. If he wants visitation then he can also pay child support. I"ve seen many, many girls not get child supprt right away, and still let the ex / dads have visitation. If you need an attorney, get one right away. Don't to into court without one. A dear freind of mine did exactly that, sure that the judge would let her keep the baby. Dad made up a bunch of lies and got the kid - if she'd had a lawyer with her it would never have happened. Good luck ,and let the creep go on his own way at least until the baby comes. yOu don't need that stress while you are pregnant.
2007-03-03 08:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take legal actions. If he doesnt want to be in the baby's or your life time for some child support. If he runs or just never shows then I'm sorry to say you're going on this alone. He is a douche bag and you dont need to deal with that when your going to be having a baby. If he tries to take him/her away, well get a good attorney. The court will usually give custody to the mother if you have a good home, work, etc... So goodluck
2007-02-26 11:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't take the baby from you unless you are on drugs or an unfit mother. And he would have to prove that. He also would probably have to prove that he is the dad by a DNA test.
I am personally glad he is out of your life because if he could leave you while pregnant and planning on getting married he isn't worth having. And if he left you, he will leave others.
It sounds like you made a very poor judgment with this man.
I hope that your self esteem gets better and the next guy you fall for is worthy of being a partner and father.
2007-02-26 11:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man can take away a baby from a mother unless she is a serious crack whore & mass murderer rolled into one! Seriously. Don't let his threats get to you. If he's messing around on you, he's all about control. Don't let him control you...if you are indeed pregnant with his child, you have all the control. He's going to have to pay you child support, and he'll get some visitation at best. Seeing as how he abandoned you during your pregnancy, no judge is going to look favorably on him for that. Honey, you don't need a man like that. Don't stress yourself out over him and the situation he's created. You have friends and family to rely on, right? Stress is bad for a pregnant woman. If you are worried about money, public aid is available, and single, unwed pregnant women can get on medicaid health insurance. Do yourself a favor, and lose him permanantly. You've got him by the balls now. All you need from him is a DNA test, and the state will start giving his money to you soon! Good luck!
2007-02-26 11:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't stress over the situation. Its not good for the baby. Luckily, he is showing you the kind of man he is, so you know what you are dealing with. You need to figure out if you are capable of raising this baby on your own. I doubt that he will try and get custody. Does he have a good reason? Just relax, even though things seem difficult right now, things will eventually fall into place. I wish you the best of luck and congratulations.
2007-02-26 11:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I have never been in a situation like this. Maybe you could show him some proof that you are pregnant. If he ran off with another girl, why would you want to be with him anyway? I know that you love him and that it is really hard to let go, but if he left you, then maybe you are better off without him. He'll have to pay child support of course, but I'm sure that you can find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and will love you and that baby unconditionally. Good luck to you.
2007-02-26 11:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he can't take the child from you unless you are unfit, and that is something he would have to prove in court. You can raise a baby on your own your not the first person to do it and you won't be the last. Now keep in mind this baby needs you to be strong and healthy so try not getting too stressed. Get together with some close friends right now you need support. There are plenty of programs that help single mothers with everything from homes to food. Check with your local human resource department or health department they can help you get things you need and answer questions.
2007-02-26 11:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by i<3 my guys 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can, get a lawyer's advice on the matter. I doubt very much that a judge would grant custody to such an irresponsible man.
Make sure to document everything that he says on the matter.
Emotionally, I would advise you to stay with a friend or family member. They can help you through this situation and give you advice.
Also, explore all of your options. Will you keep the child? Will you put the child up for adoption? Is abortion an option?
You've got a lot to think about, sweetie. I wish you well.
2007-02-26 11:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by calypso_suicide 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw him you do not need him anyways... If he is such a jerk then dont even waste time. If you are scared that he will take the baby away from you then make him sign a waiver that he wont be able to get custody or just say you dont know who the dad is. The court is most likely going to be in favor of the mom so that would be you. Just relax and talk to him about it. And then see what will happen from that point on...
2007-02-26 11:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men like this get whats coming to them i too was left by a guy when i was preg ,,, you dont need him he has the right to know you have done that , you can do it with out him he has no right to take the baby its hard on your own but it is well worth it ,, if your really worryed bout him trying to take bub get legal advice now and know where you stand good luck and take care,,
i now am in a great relation ship and have got 2 more kids him leaving was the best thing for me and it will b for you too!!!!
2007-03-05 10:18:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋