My boyfriend and his ex have joint custody of their daughter. My boyfriends mom helped alot raising this child but for the past two years both parents have been doing a great job on their own. (The daughter is 8 now.) Both the parents were into drugs pretty bad but are clean and sober now. The grandmother (fathers mother) is obssesed with the child and tells her that she is her mother and thinks she should control anything that has to do with the child. She told her when she is 13 she can choose who she wants to live with, I think that she is wrong for even having that conversation with an 8 year old. The grandmother told me that when she took the child home that she didn't want to go and said that she hated her own mother, I think she's lying. The child loves her mother alot, The grandmother is filling her head with crazy stuff, I think that she shouldn't be able to spend as much time with her since she doesn't value the time they have and has to talk bad about people. Am I right?
2007-02-26 11:25:46 · 3 answers · asked by wendy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hell yes, you are right! Never bad mouth a parent to a child. Children don't understand those things and they generally don't see the wrong in a parent unless the parent is mean to them and stuff like that. A child loves unconditionally, therefore generally sees no flaws in their parents. Someone who tells a child these things is doing nothing but confusing them and it is not healthy. I would limit time spent with the grandmother to little or none until she can act like an adult, herself!! If he has custody, even joint custody, he has every right to refuse the grandmother's seeing the child. I would do something about all that crap!!
2007-02-27 00:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that the grandmother has the right to say that she is the child's mother. If you are worried that she is filling the little girl's head with crazy stuff, then one idea is to not let the grandmother have time alone with her...you should talk to the parents and voice your concerns with them. I think you guys can come to some sort of decision that is in the best interest of the girl.
2007-02-26 20:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower_jewelz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, hard question. I would see a judge.
2007-02-26 19:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋