I lost my virginity about a year ago and i want to tell my mom because its been bothering me. I'm only 13 and my mom lost her's when she was 15. I want to tell her but don't know how. She will be so mad at me for it but i just need to get it off my chest. Someone please...what should i do.
2007-02-26 11:22:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hrm.. what are you doing havin sex at 13?!?!?!?!?
anyway, this might be a tight situation, because at 13... christ thats young.... i'd tell her in about 2 months. in that time, dont do anything but read. make sure you forget his/her number and name, because shes gonna want to know. get used to not bein on the computer, let your friends know, and expect the worse, is my advise.
2007-02-26 11:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her, that way you can go to the doctors and be checked for viruses and maybe even get put on the pill. I know it sounds imposible but it's hard to trust boys. You never know if they have std's or if they're really using the right kind of condom. Of course your mom will be furious but it's only because she loves you so much and wants to protect you. So I say you bring it up when she's in a good mood and it's just you 2 and nobody else around. Then it will be a secret just you and your mom share. However I don't encourage you keep having sex at such a young age. You're still in school. You don't want to get pregnant or contract some life threatening virus!
2007-02-26 11:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by crazypinkswtheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's too young, sweetie, but it's already been done. I think you should tell her. She will be disappointed more than she'll be angry, but I agree that you need to tell her if it's been bothering you.
However, I don't think her losing her virginity at 15 was really setting a good example for you. Kids in my school and kids all over the world are losing their virginity when they're too young to even understand it.
2007-02-26 11:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 is so young however you cannot turn back the clock. I hope you are being responsible seeing you have chosen to act like an adult. If you decide to continue to be sexually active you must tell your mom so that you both can discuss appropriate birth control and you should use a condom every time.
I tell my daughters that if they are not old enough to discuss condoms and insist upon them when having sex then they are too young to have sex.
Please reconsider having sex again. You should be discovering who you are, not having sex. What exactly are you going to look forward to as you get older? And pregnancy happens even to 13 year olds. Good luck.
2007-02-26 11:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Brittanyskye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'M SORRY TO HEAR THAT DEAR YOUR SO YOUNG AND YOU PROBABLY DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU WERE DOING YOUR PROBABLY SCARED BUT TRUST ME ITS BETTER FOR YOU TO TELL HER NOW CAUSE SHE CAN HELP YOU AND OBVIOUSLY SINCE SHE LOST IT AT A YOUNG AGE SHE KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE FEELING SHE HAS A RIGHT TO BE UPSET AND DISAPPOINTED BUT THOSE FEELINGS ARE ONLY THERE BECAUSE SHE WISHES YOU COULD OF CAME TO HER FIRST BEFORE YOU DECIDED TO DO IT SHE WILL LOVE YOU REGARDLESS AND WILL WANT TO HELP YOU MAYBE YOU SHOULD WRITE HER A LETTER AND LEAVE IT ON HER BED OR SOMEWHERE WHERE SHE WILL BE THE ONLY ONE TO FIND IT AND SPEAK FROM YOUR HEART AND TELL HER HOW U FEEL ABOUT IT AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND OR GO SOMEWHERE ALONE WITH HER LIKE MAYBE TO THE PARK SOMEWHERE AWAY FROM HOME AND YOUR SIBLINGS (IF YOU HAVE ANY) MOTHERS JUST WANT THE BEST FOR THERE DAUGHTERS AND THEY WANT THERE CHILDREN TO HAVE THE BEST IN LIFE AND JUST CAUSE OF ONE ACTION ITS NOT THE END OF YOUR LIFE AND NOW YOU CAN TRY YOUR BEST TO MAKE THE BEST DECISIONS IN LIFE AND LEAVE SEX FOR WHEN YOU ARE OLDER AND MORE MATURE. HOPE THIS HELPS TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND DO THE RIGHT THING.
2007-02-26 11:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are so very young. If you have been able to share with Mom before, it shouldn't be too bad.
Arrange a nice and private time to tell her. Perhaps write down what you want to say and use that as a guide. She loves you, no matter what. Remember that.
It will get easier, once you are truthful. You build on that.
2007-02-26 11:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To lessen your guilt? Not a smart move at 13. I'm sure your mother told you she wasn't proud of losing her's at 15.. You need to get an education and grow up. I would not tell her if it's going to hurt her. Just learn from it.. and contact Planned Parenthood.. You don't want to be a mother at 14.
2007-02-26 11:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that losing your virginity at TWELVE is pretty disappointing, so I would NOT tell your mom that. Although you didnt state how you lost your virginity (hopefully it wasnt forced but i mean, come on, 12???) I would let it be until you are 15, or "her age" when she did. Although that was three years LATER than you
2007-02-26 11:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to tell her, Maybe the two of you can sit down and talk and maybe understand why a 13 yr. old child felt like she had to have sex. My god, what is the world coming to now adays!
2007-03-02 10:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by CrazyKaycin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. tell her you have sometihng important to tell her but you wont tell her unless she promises not to be angry. it works every time ..at least with someitnhg this big. she will probably be sympathetic if you make her promise too..if shes mean pull a guilt trip on her and shell except it. it may take time the latter way but in the end youll be able to talk about it with her.
2007-02-26 11:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋