I'm 13 and i wanna tell my mom that i'm not a virgin?

Question

I lost it about a year ago and i want to let her know that im not a virgin anymore because its jsut something i need to get off my chest. I dont know how to tell her though. She will get so mad at me. Somebody please let me know what I should do.

Answer 1

Well sooner or later you have to tell her, and there is no easy way to tell that. You are young, my dear and that's not a good thing to do.

Answer 2

First, what is done is done. It sounds to me you have a good relationship with your mom & you are not wanting to hurt her. First, I would begin by telling her that she is a good mother, if in fact she is & I would then let her know you have something to tell her that is important to you, because she is important to you. Do not lie & do not carry this burden. That is an awful huge burden for a child of your age. I pray that this experimental phase would be over for you, because you are just a baby yourself, not meaning that mean in any way, but you are far to young for this kind of a life. You need to allow yourself to be a child first. If you are still active, you need to request, after the shock wears off, that your mom take you & get you protected & enroll you in some sort of sex ed classes & maybe educational materials. I was a teen Mom & it sure sounded romantic at the time, but it ended up be me, a child, raising children. It was hard, because their Dad was not around to help. EVER. No, the next boy will not be any different. I managed, but I missed out on my prom, my homecoming, my everything as a child. Despite what anyone says, go to your mom, she is your mother & she needs to know for so many reasons, she needs to help you for so many reasons. Talk to her. She may blow, but it is not because of you, it will be because she feels like a bad parent & you need to let her know she is not. Have a good cry with her after the stacks stop smoking & let her know you love her, then have that birds & bee's talk. It is very possible, she had not thought you were old enough for it yet. Maybe you need to let her know the time is here. There is alot to say about a good parent, but there is alot to say about a good child too. Be that good child & have the courage to do what is right, by you & by your mom. She must love you or you would not have a need to tell her & you must know it or you would not be here asking what to do. God bless & please do right by BOTH you & your mom.

Answer 3

You mom realizes that she will't replace the errors you have made yet she is conscious that's her duty to make certain you're making smarter options interior the destiny and she or he would not wanna be a grandma. I advised my mom that i replace into happening start administration whilst i replace into 14 because of the fact I had a boyfriend of 6 months and we observed having intercourse. i had for use to taking it in the previous I had intercourse and she or he took me superb to the wellbeing unit. It appears like your mom is supportive and you are able to stay user-friendly together with her because of the fact friends come and pass yet your mom would be there for you no remember what

Answer 4

First of all, I can't see why you'd want to disclose such information to your parents. These are your personal affairs. Its your body and its your life; do with it as you please.

If you really _must_ tell them, please do so in a blunt and honest manner. You're old enough to start taking resbonsibility for your actions.

Don't worry too much about your mother being upset. Yes, it will come as a shock to her, but I'm sure that over time she will understand. As the only well-wishers you will ever have, they (your parents) will be your best confidants.

I'm surprised you didn't tell her there and then. Losing your virginity is nothing to be ashamed of. It happens.

Answer 5

you should have told her BEFORE you had sex. That's what I did, and she talked with me and then took me to the doctor to get birth control pills. I was 16 though. At 13 i never even THOUGHT of sex, and all I can tell you is, it's better to talk to your mom about it now then 2 years from now, saying your pregnant. the worst she could do is yell, maybe be upset, but what mother wouldnt be upset about hearing their 13 year old daughter has had sex. Teen's are going to do it, no matter what parents tell them, just make sure you know what the conciquences are for next time, and ALWAYS use protection. And please remember that there ARE some STD's that you can get even if you DO use a condom, like herpes and HPV/Genital warts so please be careful.

Answer 6

You should be honest with your mom, I'm sure she'll understand. You should also look at why you did what you did, maybe she can help you with this. I also think, that being young, you need to ask yourself why you are behaving this way at such a young age. I know young women need to feel loved, and romance seems very cool at 13, but getting pregnant is so uncool.

It pretty much ends your fun, for about 20 years or so to stop and raise a child. Are you really ready for that type of responsibility at your age?

I sure wouldn't be!

Think about the future, it's in your hands. If a guy won't take no for an answer, then he's just a pig.

Answer 7

Tell her that you want to be honest with her and that you feel you can talk to her, and then tell her that you had sex and that you need info on birth control and things like that. Let her know that you still need her love and support. She will probably be mad, because let's face it...a 12 year old is a child, and children have no place having sex. It's a good thing you didn't get pregnant, because then she'd REALLY be pissed. Hopefully your mom will help you to make smart decisions in the future.

Answer 8

Just say mom, there is something i need to tell you. Everytime I need to tell my mom something i know she wont like i say it quickly so i can just get the words out. Before we can sit down and start talking, because if i just sit there and talk with her i'll be too nervous to say what i need to. Just say it to her. I know its hard, but you will feel so much better when she knows. Or you could write her a note and leave it on her bed. When you go to school so that way you wont have to bring it up, you wont even have to be there when she starts thinking about it, n by the time you get home from school she'll have cooled down and you can just talk about it.
And i dont think she will be so mad, i think she may just be more shocked because you lost it when you were 12.

Answer 9

Why would u tell her??
things will most likely never be the same if u do. The trust that your mom has for u would most likely go down and It will be awkward for a long time.

but if u want to hopefully she will understand. Good luck!

Answer 10

Ok. I lost mine at 13..big mistake..regretful, yet im happy i've made such a mistake, that i learned from. anyway. The most important thing, timing. Make sure your mom isn't upset, but isn't really happy. Don't wanna burst her bubble, or make her more upset! Tell her, that you've made a mistake, and you are sorry. Tell her that you've been wanting to tell her this for such a long time, but it was so hard, because you know that she will not agree with it. Let her know that you don't want to do anything else like that, and if you did, you will tell her that. Keep your promise, whatever you say to her, stick with it, it may bite you in the butt..

Answer 11

Maybe you should have thought about that. Just tell her that her little angel is actually a retarded bender and/or call girl. She will probably kick you out of the house (which she should do). After all you could just live in your "massage" parlour. If you can't keep your legs closed then you need to deal with the consequences. People like you just waist what little fresh air this planet has.

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