She insist that it was strictly sexual with no feelings & that she will do it again with others. It was numerous times on a 21 day trip. She's 43 & I am 65. She saids she needs more than I can provided. Why do I want this to happen?
2007-02-26 11:08:33 · 30 answers · asked by lindaphi@pacbell.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cause yur a sicko.
2007-02-26 11:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your situation is more common than people would like to admit. You love your wife and want her to do what makes her happy. Life looks quite different at 65 than 35. Hell I myself my be faced with this one day. I seem to only date women 10 to 15 years younger than me.
I would admit I almost married a very attractive passionate women that was 17 years younger but I know when she was in her forties I mostly would not be able to keep up with her sexually. I also new she was the type that would get a divorce so I made a today decision based on my happiness tomorrow.
You are where I would have been and I can see why this would be OK with you. Even at 47 I am not as hung up about sexuality.I am a strong personality with a very high self-esteem and I am capable doing this. It would be done on my terms not hers. You have to decide what is best for you. I would make it clear some very strong ground rules. Protect Yourself financially if you do choose to stick with this.
2007-02-26 11:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also find the thought of my wife having a one night stand strangely erotic. The reasons can be multiple.
--You may enjoy hearing from your wife the juicy details of the twist, and how she enjoyed it -- sex by proxy.
-- Her being naughty gives you more power in the relationship, because subconsciously you have something over her, especially during an argument.
-- Her being naughty justifies any similar straying behaviour that you might have or want to do, even if it is only with your eyes.
-- Men are stimulated sexually by sight, thats why they are so into porn. You may have wonderful mental picutres playing in your imagination.
-- Subconsciously you may realise your inability to fulfill your wifes needs and so knowing she has been "serviced" like a mare at the stud farm, gives you security.
-- Some men just are kinky in this area. Being the total opposite of the "jealous guy" type.
-- Your wife's adulterous actions, may have now put her in the "whore" genre for you. Now you can "punish" her during love making by rougher sex or you may feel more free to ask for "give me sex now!"
-- You may have been subconsciously worried about your wife if you die early. but now you know she will be able to move on and start again easily.
I hope this has helped you. I would be interested in hearing from you, to see how you adjust to this situation.
2007-02-26 11:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have any respect for yourself.. Get a damn BACKBONE... Your 65 yrs old, and deserve to live the rest of your life content.. She is obviously flat out telling you that you dont satisfy her.. End this horrible relationship with the whore that isnt going anywhere anyways...
2007-02-26 11:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be filing for a divorce, she is married to you and if she really cared she would not stray. There are other ways to satisfy sexual desire other than to sleep around in front of your husband. She clearly doesn't care for you or how much she hurts you, so call it quits before you get hurt anymore
2007-02-26 11:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u dont. start havin a lot of sex- we're talkin 5 times a week. make sure its pleasurable with lots of deep penetration and of course teasing. y do u want ur wife 2 have sex with anothe guy? prove her wrong- show her what u can realy do in the bed.
2007-02-26 11:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you approve of her actions? Or is it a first reaction because you are still in shock from hearing about what she did? She obviously has no respect for you or your marriage.But most of all she has no respect for herself. My advice to you would be to head straight for your lawyers office for a divorce before you find yourself needing to head for your doctors office to cure some STD she passes on to you.
2007-02-26 11:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should respect you and not cheat when i was 44 i married a 65 year old he couldn't perform but i loved him the way he was good to me
2007-03-02 10:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want this to happen? Well, then you have to ask yourself a couple of questions.
Is it the thought of your wife with another person that turns you on?
Do you want to watch your wife with another person?
If it turns you on, there's nothing wrong with that. It's just a matter of personal preference...Just make sure you use a condom!
2007-02-26 11:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by calypso_suicide 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Divorce her, because there is NO good reason for committing adultery. You don't deserve to be treated this way, but if you allow it, there's nothing more to say & shame on both of you.
2007-02-26 11:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So are you not servicing her enough? Anyways what she did is very wrong and if you feel like divorcing her, go ahead. You have the right to.
2007-02-26 11:19:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋