Why do lesbians hurt their parents?

Question

Parents of lesbians wonder what they did wrong. Parents of lesbians are also very sad that their daughters won't give them grandchildren (at least not in a normal/natural way). Plus, lesbians bring great shame on their families. Why do lesbians do all this?

Answer 1

I think that they follow thier heart, and to hell with the outcome. They have to belive in how they feel. This brings hurt to any parent who doesnt like thier son in law or daughter in law. My parents were crushed by my chiooce in husbands, and they still think that he doesnt fit well with the family. He is not the easiest or nicest guy in the world, but the piont is that people have to be with someone who they get the feelings they need from. The love and support. The security, or lack of it. They need to be will the right person, and sometimes that is not found in the opposite sex. They need to live thier lives by what they want, and not by what the parents want. It is thier life after all.

Answer 2

Ha ha ha a question laced with generalizations and blatant inaccuracies. Here let me reword your question for you.
Why do I hurt my parents?
My parents wonder what they did wrong. My parents are very sad that I am bigoted and hateful towards people who I don't know. Plus I bring great shame on my family with my rude behavior to the Lesbian community. Why do I do this?
You can cut and paste and ask this if you like.

Answer 3

This is no different than a parent wondering why their child was born premature or with a birth defect or someone wondering why they were diagnosed with cancer. I know those have nothing to do with sexuality, but they are easier to visualize. Would you be disappointed with a child because they were diagnosed with leukemia? People don't choose to be homosexual anymore than someone chooses to be left handed. Why are some people left-handed? No reason, that's just they way some children are born. But whether a parent sees sexuality as genetically determined or a choice, a parent needs to accept their child as she is. The question shouldn't be, "why do lesbians do this?" it should be, "why don't parents understand why thier child is a lesbian." For a parent to blame misunderstandings on their children is about as pathetic and selfish as I can think of

Answer 4

I think just about everyone disappoints their parents in one way or another. But here, the problem ISN'T the lesbians; it is the parents who can't seem to accept them. In addition, lesbians CAN conceive kids, and they can be blood children as well. and if the parents are unhappy that their daughter didn't have a penis inside of them to conceive, that's just plain stupid.

And Lesbians DON'T bring shame on their families. Ask the parents of Melissa Etheridge if that OSCAR WINNER is an embarrassment to them!!!

Answer 5

my family didn't do anything "wrong," nor did they think that when I came out to them. in fact, my mother was only upset that I didn't come out to her sooner! and, while I am unable to have children (hysterectomy), many lesbians DO have children. we have quite a few lesbian AND gay friends who have happy, healthy, well-adjusted children. in fact, we have one friend who is expecting her second child with her partner (and while she didn't become pregnant in the "traditional" way, her pregnancy is "normal").
I'm assuming you have a daughter who is a lesbian? what I find sad are those parents who are ashamed and turn their backs on their children simply for being gay. you're own flesh and blood? how could YOU do all this? any parent who would cast out and turn their backs on their own children simply because they didn't turn out the way they expected should be ashamed! THAT is NOT normal!

Answer 6

You must bring shame to your family, seeing as you're so ignorant.

It's people like you that lead lesbians to commiting suicide. Does that not bother you? It's already hard enough for them, since everyone feels they're going against the "norm". They are BORN that way. Just as you cannot determine what hair color, gender, or height you'll be born with, they're born liking girls. If you know this, but still think they should deny themselves love...is that really fair? There's nothing wrong with liking the same gender...but there's something wrong with being an ignorant homophobe.

A good parent loves their child no matter what...does their sexual orientation matter? No. If they are ashamed by their child, then they are unfit parents.

Answer 7

you kno devils advocate i like you.....i like tha fact that u like to get ppl rowdied up.....but since u ask i think that when it all comes down to it u shouldnt just be asking y lesbian hurt their parents....y not just ask y do kids hurt their parents...y do u feel the need to seperate lesbians from the rest of society???.....n u cant jus be homophobic bc u woulda have included gays but u didnt....so im goin to answer your ? n then i have a ? for u myself.........i believe that most lesbians try to keep it to themselves....many hide it from their parents as long as possible.....they dnt wont to hurt the parents but eventually they have to realize that its their life n they have to do what they kno is best for them....whats gonna make them happy....n when u say a normal natural way---wuts is ur deft. of normal n natural??....would u rather be born bc you mother was raped or would u rather have to loving parents who planned for u and wanted you.....n how do u figure that lesbians bring great shame on their familes......many women today are single, independent and very successful....u couldnt tell if they were gay or straight.....parents would be proud to have a successful daughter...now if they daughter turned out to be a lesbian then that would jus be a flaw of hers and something that the parents would eventually learn to accept that about her......now i wonder y u dnt ask y do children n general hurt their parents?? y did u hurt your parents when u did w.e it is that they did not teach you....y not ask y murderes dnt think how it would make their family look or drug addicts or child molesters......y jus lesbians......i think since i answered your ? u should be able to answer mine......

Answer 8

"Normal": Who are you to decide what's normal and what's not? Scientists proved that homosexuality is genetic, which makes it normal. Besides, do women who are unable of giving birth, or decide not to, to be blamed?
"Shame": Shame on those who find their own children a shame on things they have no hand in. Again, are women who can't give birth or decide not a "shame"?
And who told you that all parents of lesbian women think that way? Did you read their minds?

Answer 9

I don't see why so many people have harsh feelings towards "homosexuals". Their sexual preference is THEIR opionion (which means there is no WRONG OR RIGHT answer) and THEIR business. I am totally ANTI-homophobic. Although I am not homosexual, I don't find anything wrong with them. Some people are attracted to "white" people, some are attracted to "black" people, so why can't some be attracted to the same sex? As far as bringing shame, it's not THEM who bring the shame, it's the people who find "homosexuals" different. That's why society is so screwed up these days. Why can't people accept people for who they are, not their sexual preference or skin color or religion or whatever?

Answer 10

If you are ashamed of your daughter, then shame on you.
Any parent that can not look beyond his or her own prejudices in order to find the deeper love for his or her children should probably not have had children in the first place.

I have many lesbian friends. Any parent with the sense of a hamster would be proud to have them as daughters.