My ex and I split up about 5 years ago. Since he's remarried, things have gotten progressively worse at his house for my girls. We don't have a court ordered custody agreement, we were never married. We DO have a child support order in place where I am named the custodial parent. He and his wife make my 5 year old sleep in the den without lights (she's very afraid of the dark), stand her in corners for long periods of time (more than an hour seems long to me), calls her stupid, compares her to her 'smarter' step sister who is 5 as well and can read (my child is on grade level and is slightly reading), taking all of her toys away from her and threatening to burn them or sell them to someone who will burn them, spanking her and leaving handprints (that are not there the next day when I can check, only there up until at least bedtime - my 8 year old checks), and so many other things. She is physically sick everytime she has to go. What can I do?
2007-02-26 10:58:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't send her if she doesn't want to go. there is no ruling in court that she has to. do what ever you think is right. I would protect my child no matter what.
2007-02-26 11:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let her go anymore. If you have too get a court order that has only day visits for him and no over night visits allowed. It is definately abuse. Maybe no physical scars but huge emotional ones!!!! That little girl actually both of them deserve better and with no custody aggreement in place you dont have to let them go over there if they do not want to go. You said you are the custodial parent well that gives you the right to make the ecisions for your girls. That includes not letting them see or be with him until he can show more humanity toward his own child and not another womans. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 11:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by HOT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have anything that says he has the legal right to see the child then you should call your local child protective services office right now and report the situation. And refuse to let her go back over there until the matter is addressed. If he wants to see her, make him take you to court and when the judge asks why you have denied him seeing his child have a written copy to the best of your ability to recap on everything that took place to drive you to your decision. Hope this helps. Take care
2007-02-26 11:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact Child Services talk to someone there see what they have to say, They should see the children talk to them .Since there is no court case pending .You have no grudge .If there are bruise or spank marks of any kind.Report them also,that's abuse. See if you can stop visitation.Tell the state finishes there investigation.
Don't worry about child support he can't stop it.This is just my thoughts depends on where you live.
Protect the little 1s your all they have. Hope this helps
2007-02-26 11:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt force her to go visit him..If she doesnt want to see her Dad at his place, then maybe you can bring this to your ex's attention and explain to him that this visitation at his house isnt working out for your daughter.. There's obviously something wrong if she's physically sick to go to his house.. You are your daughter's voice and protector.. If he's understanding and didnt realize that this was affecting his little girl then he will have no problem with changing the visits to maybe just the two of them at the park, or skating, etc.. for awhile until she is comfortable with his house.. If he doesnt understand, from what I hear I doubt he will if this is how he is treating his daughter, then I would certainly take legal action to have the visitation changed.. Whether it be, monitored or whatever.. Hope this helps, but be strong and firm when it involves your daughter!!
2007-02-26 11:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write everything down and call a lawyer. That is dangerous for your babies and it is your responsibility as their parent to protect them from that situation. I don't know how you can even see straight because I would be freaking out...but that is the momma bear coming out. Good luck!!!
2007-02-26 11:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your child go over there knowing she is being abused you could get in to trouble if social worker's knowed you knew she was being abused i wouldn't let no one abuse your child id fight first
2007-03-02 07:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋