my best friend has an abusive father. He often talks to me about how his father is abusive and I have been at the house when it happens. I feel really stupid because i dont know what to say to him. I have no idea what to say or do to him to make him better. Does anyone have some advice??
2007-02-26 10:56:28 · 10 answers · asked by sh3lbii_2401 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be a true friend and report his dad.He needs someone to help him.Get your parents to help you.
Then be there for support for your friend.Good luck and thank you in advance for helping someone out in a very bad situation.
2007-02-26 11:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by gibbygirl38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. I realize that's a really awkward thing to deal with, and an "I'm sorry man." is probably the safest thing to say. Always give support and be around for hugs when he needs one. I know everyone is shouting "report him" but that's probably a decision you should leave up to your friend. Since you say he's your best friend, you shoudl be able to have an open discussion of the problem, and maybe find out why he hasn't been reported already. Whatever you do, don't go behind your friend's back unless it is absolutely life-and-death-serious.
2007-02-26 19:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to report his a**. If he dosn't do it, then report the dad for your friend. You shouldn't sit back and allow that to happen. How old is your friend? He should fight back in self defense.
If I was at someone's house and they were being abused, I'd call the cops. Sound like the dad needs a beat-down himself.
2007-02-26 19:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are certainly in a tough position. you want to help him, but obviously you aren 't sure what to do. so, if it were me..............
the next time he brings it up why not ask him if he is willing to go to the school counsellor about it? offer to go with him if he is nervous or afraid to go alone.
the thing is, if your friend has siblings, then they may be being abused as well........and if they are younger they have no defence and are probably frightened out of their minds.
if he won't ask for help then you have to decide are you willing to risk his friendship in order to help him. often abuse gets worse as time goes on. sooner or later he is going to be badly hurt or worse he may strike back and end up in an even more dangerous situation. so you may have to decide if you want to speak with the school counsellor about it, or the pastor, or teacher, principal, your parents, someone.
good luck and please know that there is help out there.
be strong!
2007-02-26 19:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his mother was an AH for breeding with such a man. He should go live with an Aunt or Grandparent that can provide better living conditions. He should also get on tape what is going on for proof. When you are there and it starts, grab your friend and beat it out of there.
2007-02-26 19:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice...
go beat up his dad. Thats what i would do, then id be like sorry but i had to do cause i dont let my friends get beat up by anybody, especially not my best friends. And if his dad beats you up, then you can get ur dad to beat him up. And if that doesnt work get a gym membership and you and ur friend keep working out till you can beat up the dad. People have the right to defend themsleves...
2007-02-26 19:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by kenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to find someone to talk to that can help. He does not deserve to be hit like that no matter how he acts. Tell him it sounds bad but he would be better off living somewhere else.
2007-02-26 19:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Call the Cops on him
2007-02-26 18:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a very difficult time for u . try to tell your friend to report his dad. if he refuses, do it urself. that is what a true friend is.
2007-02-26 19:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
show compasion, and tell him you are there for him
2007-02-26 18:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by MellyMel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋