with the old man for 20 yrs 3 kids cook clean and wash my life has been them now taken for granted no thanks the hub texting some old tart kids think of them selves fed up am 38 am i old
2007-02-26 10:42:10 · 26 answers · asked by astra 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really feel for you i had a similar situation last year everything seemed to be going wrong cooked,cleaned and pampered my 2 girls and hubby,i discovered he was having an internet thing with some lady so i fought back they all took me for granted i'm 33 by the way.I decided to hit the gym i lost 2 stone treated myself to some new clothes which i never did,stuck dynamite up their arses and told them to clear up their own rubbish my kids are 13 and 14. Every now and then me and my friend donna would go to the pub on our own without any notice and have a girly laugh. Worked a charm my hubby was terrified begged for my forgiveness and trust me i let him beg now it's on my terms but i'm not selfish with it wish i was but i'm too kind hearted and my kids are more considerate so my advice is put your foot down let him have his old tart and show him how much better you can do join a gym or club get out with friends be selfish even if money tight you have given them the best of you now take something back the arrogant **** will wonder what has hit him and all the best to you babes girl power lol:)
2007-02-26 18:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by clare w 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun old definitely no. i married last year to a man 8 years younger and I have four kids. You sound like you have no self esteem left at all. Try getting out and putting yourself first, anything go swimming, look up an old mate and have a coffee. You need to put yer foot down and get noticed, this ain't gonna happen all the time you are letting your hubbie and kids treat u like this. Break your routine and don't be there when they expect you to. If this doesn't help then move on now and have a life of your own.
2007-02-27 09:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step is realizing there IS a problem. The second step should be "out the door". You're ONLY 38! Do you know what I would give to be 38?? The world is yours for the taking at 38! Now, start living! Get out of there, divorce him, and LIVE!
2007-02-26 10:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them something to worry about and start doing things for yourself. For example, lose weight, start to doll yourself up, get an outside interest, for example dancing lessons. Don't discuss it with them just go about it slowly. And when they suddenly realise there have been changes and they ask, hit them right between the eyes. Tell them that you are tired of being a doormat and it is stopping from right now, tell them that you are doing things for yourself from now on. Tell them that if the dishes aren't done, well they can just sit there, if beds not made well tough, if clothes are dirty they know here the washing machine is etc etc.
2007-02-26 10:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 is not old u have ur life a head of you! DON'T leave you kids! my mom left us for some old man,46, and barley calls! just take a little trip away from life and go to the beach and u will see how much you miss them!! but yeah just take a break!
2007-02-26 10:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Spalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not old at all. He is just being a jerk and not a good and faithful husband right now. I suggest you sit down and talk with him and ask him why he is texting this other woman with kids. Does she even know he is married and not available or single? You both need marriage counseling as well and also go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter.
2007-02-26 10:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 is not old at all.
As for your other points, I am sorry to hear you are in that kind of situation. It is never good to be taken for granted in anyway.
I wouldn't feel right in telling you what I think you should do because the choice is up to you but one question you may want to consider is, is it worth it?
If it is, you got to fight for it to make it work and if its not then you may need to find a way out.
It takes 2 to make a marriage work but only one to end it.
Anyway, keep the chin up and hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-26 10:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Alistair B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definately not old. When you hit 55...legal age to be considered a senior...then you can say you're old..but its still only as old as you feel. So get a new life!!! Live like you never lived before. Get child support to help with the kids, start dating again, live like you were in your twenties but without a husband this time!!!
2007-02-26 10:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though things are just getting on top of you. Why not take time out for yourself ?
There are millions of women feeling exactly the way you do. Pamper yourself. Think about the good things you have.
Think about the millions far worse of than you.
Relax ;-)
2007-02-26 10:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not old babes just taken for granted , ask the kids to help out more an get rid of that loser of a hubby an get your self out there an look for someone who will treat you with respect
2007-02-26 10:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by lianbiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋