I find myself attracted to a man but I thought I was str8. I think he is attracted to me too. Now what?

Question

I am attracted to a male co-worker although I have never had any strong sexual attraction to another guy. We are both good looking guys in our mid 20's and have become good friends at work. I find him to be quite hot. I always try to catch a peak at his 6 pack stomach when he is exerting himself, he has a hot tatoo on his lower back that I find hot. He has made some interesting remarks to me like asking what kind of bathing suit do I wear because I had been talking about a trip I am going on. He also said I looked really good in my sunglasses. He suggested that I wear blue because I have blue eyes. Nothing overtly sexual but just kind of strange coming from a str8 guy. I need some advice on how to figure out if he is indeed attracted to me. I don't want to make the work situation uncomfortable but I do want to know if he feels the same way and maybe someday something can come of it.

Answer 1

Your best bet is to let your workplace STAY your workplace...it is very bad practice to mix business with pleasure. Granted, sometimes it works out well, but consider the fact that you're speaking of a same-gender type of relationship...man, that's trouble just begging to rear its ugly head!

It would also be best not to fall prey to some of these statements the other guy is saying to you; it could very well be that his comments are innocent, and because of your feelings you've misinterpreted them. If his appearing advances are taken to another level, let them be on his behalf, not yours...maybe they are completely innocent.

If you are finding yourself attracted to this one guy, then first you need to find if you have attraction for men PERIOD! Find & figure yourself out first...that first leap is wider & deeper than you think (if you are in fact now coming into liking the same sex).

He is not the only nor the most attractive person on this earth, and once you've had opportunity to talk to YOURSELF about these emotions/feelings, and accept the answers that you get from these talkings to, then take another step. You'll see more than just some other person's beauty...you'll see your own!

Answer 2

most people that say they are straight are usually curious about being gay. Just tell him when he asks questions about what type of swim suit you wear, tell him it a nude beach and he should join you sometime, then see what kind of reaction you get. You might also ask him if you can see his tattoo and ask if you could touch it and move your hand down his back toward his a s s, see his reaction, You might ask him out to lunch or a beer after work and talk a little more openly about gays and ask what he thinks about gays. Well good luck with the situation and If that is what you want then i hope that is what you get.

Answer 3

Ask him to go camping and remember what goes in the campground stays in the campground that way you are not at work.

P.S. A little alcohol will losen things up.

Answer 4

What would you do if you had these feelings for a woman? Would you go with her knowing you’re already a married man?

Answer 5

in your other question you said that you were both married, so what would come of it? unless of course you got a divorce. but you could come on to him and see what happens. like pat his shoulder a lot, get close.

Answer 6

tell him you want him to come over to your house to see if your bathing suit looks okay on you

Answer 7

SHUT UP AND F UCK THE MAN. DAAAM! ALL THIS BEATING AROUND THE BUSH ISN'T GOOD FOR YOUR DICK. F UCK THE MAN. FU CK'EM I SAY. POLLY, WANT A CRACKA. C OCK, WANT A CRACK.

Answer 8

Maybe he's gay?