i just recently yold my friends that im bi, and now they wont talk to me, they say it is creepy, how isthat so
2007-02-26 10:32:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Bisexuality is a choice that's why.
I walk away from you too.
2007-02-26 23:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Shanie,
I'm sad to hear that your friends are not talking to you. It doesn't seem like they can be that interested in your friendship with them if they are judging you based upon what choices you make about your private life and sexuality. It seems like they have an attitude problem about freedom of choice and they cannot accept your sexuality because they are prejudiced.
If you are brave enough, I would definitely ask them why they find bi-sexuality creepy? - what makes it so if you are not harming anyone?. It is a normal and natural, healthy stage of self discovery, so why it is creepy to them is weird. Their values and beliefs are shaped by what they are taught by parents, schools and friends and so many of your friends, are going to feel very uncomfortable about your sexuality because they are unable to accept you for who you are. True friends do not place conditions
upon a friendship because if they do, this makes them superficial at the start anyway.
What is creepy is that this is the 21st Century and bisexuality is very accepted today more than any other time in history, so your friends are out of touch and their reaction to you is creepy. They need to accept and like you for who you are and what you aren't regardless of whether you have changed or not. Your sexuality doesn't change who you are as a person or as a friend.
Friendship is unconditional and you should remind your friends of this. One day, they are going to turn to you for support for one thing or another, but whether you will be their friend or not is up to how they are going to treat you now!. Your sexuality should not be an issue with anyone and because it is, means that you are friends with people who are out of date and not really mature enough to accept that we are all the same no matter what we are.
If you changed your hair color, would they still be your friends? - so why should your sexuality be any different?. I hope they grow up and out of their immaturity soon otherwise they will lose you as their friend.
2007-02-26 10:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess in some sort of light, being bi is considered a choice.
and the mainstream "people" think that you just haven't made up your mind. like you have to choose one sex or the other and they think u are undecided. it's really unfortunate. They do not consider your feelings when you come out. that is too bad.
congratulations for taking the first step to freedom.
You should get a pride flag now (rainbow)
2007-02-26 10:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have to be careful how I answer this. I don't know if you are underage. Let me just say, people are often afraid of what is different. You presented an image to your friends, and now they find you are not what they envisioned you as. This will take time for them to come to terms with. Some will come around. Some will not, because of the cultural and religious bias we have toward "alternate lifestyles" in this culture.
You told your friends. Now, you just need to let it go, and let them accept you or not.
I would suggest not trying to talk them around the idea of it. Just let it go for now.
I guess that is what I would tell you if you were my daughter, anyway.
2007-02-26 10:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by yossk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been lucky. When I was in highschool I came out to my first girfriend. LOL
It was funny, and to be honest I didn't care who knew. Even my mom / my sister when they found out,...I didn't care...You love me for who I'm or you hate me for who I'm but, I wish you the best anyway...
Plus if you're young and you tell you're friends, they "might" feel this way because of the education they are getting at home from their family. On TV being gay is not a bad thing...now if you're family/parents even teachers are against it, then so will you're peers. It's unfortunate but very true. I'm proud to say that I'm not the only bisexual / gay female in my family. My cousin who is way younger than me is a lesbian. Very proud of her for coming out to my aunt....that's a long story but, at least you came out to you're friends...
Good job for that!!!
Now take things one day at a time and you'll be fine! =)
2007-02-26 10:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want friends like that. Its not creepy, they're scared by it because its not something they understand and feel comfortable discussing in case they are seen as SHOCK HORROR differant!:O xx
2007-02-26 11:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Londonbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's creepier being a pervert who misuses the opposite sex than a bisexual who knows how to be a good lover.
2007-02-26 10:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it makes them uncomfortable. they are too narrow minded to understand that sometimes things aren't just black and white, there's a million shades of grey. It's too different from the norm for them, and different = bad.
2007-02-26 10:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curious question. You seem to be judging people for judging you. Its human nature I would say.
2007-03-01 04:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then they can't be very good friends if they won't talk to you; REAL friends wouldn't care what your sexual orientation is so my advice is forget about them and find true friends.
2007-02-26 10:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋