Well I'm sort of datin a girl... but i'm not so sure if she really wanna be with me or not. Aparently she doesn't trust me... I'm kinda desperate cuz i really like her...
PS: She'll be my first g/f by the way...
2007-02-26 10:28:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sorry ppl for tht fewest details... She's the les in here... i'm the newbie on this path. We've been friends for 7 years or so; she liked me when we were in high school but i never noticed (or interested b4) the thing is tht about a couple of months ago I realice tht i like her; first i thought i like the guy in her, but then i started to miss her, wanted to call her & spend time with HER... I told her eveything cuz we're friends after all... we've been hangin out, kissin a bit... but she says that she's scared of me cuz she doesn't know if i'm 4 real with her or not... what to do???... i dunno how to convince her about my feelings...
2007-02-26 10:40:44 · update #1
I've learned that communication goes a long way. I've messed up on some potential relationships, by not communicating and attempting to mind read. Talk about it, it helps.
2007-02-26 10:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bekki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really enough information to give you an answer on. You say she's your first girlfriend, are you also her first girlfriend? Maybe she's just not comfortable just yet, either in this particular relationship, or maybe she's just not adjusted to her sexuality yet. Either way, it probably isn't about you if you haven't given her a reason not to trust you, but more about her. Also, what do you mean by "sort of dating"? Maybe she doesn't trust you because you don't seem willing to commit, or if you're only "sort of" dating because of her, maybe she doesn't see trust as an issue because she doesn't believe you are dating. There are a myriad of possibilities here.
2007-02-26 18:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Technopygmalion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean... "sort of dating"? Either you are or you aren't.
My guess is that you two are at a totally different level in the relationship. She probably thinks you are nice, and cool to hang out with, but it is possible that she does not see you as a romantic partner.
You have to take your time. In your own words, she doesn't trust you. Trust can only be gained over time.
2007-02-26 18:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jack Chedeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on getting your first girl....
The first ten or so gay relationships never work out.
You are too youthful in your sexuality.
you are a flower that is just budding.
Just keep in mind the qualities that you find interesting in a gurl.
keep it in your minds eye and I'm sure you'll find the perfect mate.
She may be as unsure about the whole thing as you.
just treat her with respect. don't talk her to death.
and figure out who she really is.
If you take an interest in her, she will melt in your fingertips dahling. you go girl.
2007-02-26 18:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, being "desperate" won't help. It will only scare her away.
Now, why wouldn't she trust you? Think real hard, or if she's said it, ask her why not. Address those issues, what you've done about them, what she got wrong, etc.
I don't know if she's interested or not, but please don't let miscommunications be the reason nothing happens. At least give it a try.
2007-02-26 18:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has reason to not open up her heart to you. You haven't been out long enough to really accept yourself or to really understand yourself..
2007-03-05 23:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by reme_1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you certain of her orientation? There must be some reason for her mistrust.
2007-02-26 18:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋