my parents?

Question

ok my parents i think are going to get a divorse because she was talking to my 18 year old sis about it and i'm onley 12 and so thats a lot to take in and they were saying about like child support and how like to not sleep with him and all of this and i don't want them to;( and its really hard on me and they just got 2 new layers i need hel p what am i going to do? i don't want them to get a divorce help

Answer 1

God's got no answers for you. Sometimes adults decide that the best thing to do for their lives and their children's lives is to part ways. It's nothing you've done, and there's nothing you can do that will help.

My only advice is that if one of them starts to badmouth the other, ask them to stop immediately. You don't need to be used in their bitterness with one another, assuming they get that way. Not every divorced couple is mean to one another afterward.

Answer 2

Of course you don't want your parents to get a divorce. But there is little you can do if they are bent on acting like jerks. Right now you think they are going to, so now is the time that you should go to your mom or dad and say:
1. Are you getting a divorce?
2. If you do, remember :
*You are the two who are divorcing not me.
*I will not be put in the middle of your bickering.
*Don't go crabing about tabout my other parent
* I want to live with both of you 50/50.
* I want both of you to come to my school activities.
*I don't want no one getting any child support because I will be living 50/50 so you better live close to each other in the same school district.
*Don't talk about your sex life to me, it is not my business and I don't want any shack up bf or gf living in the house when I am around.
*Don't introduce me to your bf or gf unless you have dated them at least one year.
*No one better walk away from me and just think they can start a fun fancy free life like some 20 year old. You are both stuck with me for good.

Answer 3

I'm sorry , but if they have lawyers it has progressed to a point where I'm afraid there is no turning back.
I understand what you are going through because my parents divorced when I was 15.
If you are close to your sister, go to her and get some support from her, ask her what is going on.
I say to go to your sister because it may be too painful to go to your parents by yourself.
Have your sister help, have her be with you and talk to your parents.
They don't want to hurt you, and they definately don't want you to think that it is your fault in anyway, they both love you and I'm sure it is tearing them up inside what you are going through.
Over the next year or so, you are going to have to be stronger than you ever have before, it sucks, but you will have to do your best.
You can get through it, lean on your sis if you have to, but be strong.

Answer 4

it's okay now my parents got divorced when i was 2 or three i don't remember, and i'll be 12 may first so just listen to those other people and pray for help, excpt to that one that says kill them, this may soun outragious, but sprain your ankle, or brake a bone all you have to do is like jump off of a roof so the pain will be quik, first monuvire your bike or something, rub your arm on the concrete to get scatches, and say you fell off your bike, your parents might get over thier diffrernces and stick to you, if this does'nt work, be mean to them and give them the silent treatment, i don't want to hurt you, anybody, but drastic times call for drastic measures i guess now i don't know, i've never done this caues i was to little to understand if your parents do get a divorce maake sure you get all the time you can with the other parent that is what you'll need most

Answer 5

Not all Parents that talk to Lawyers get divorced. I went to a lawyer just to get information. Your Mom and Dad may have done the same. My husband was having a lot of anger and depression problems and talked about getting a divorce several times. I was a stay at home mom working part-time and did not want my kids to have to change everything in there lives. We didn't fight in front of the kids. He just never wanted to do anything. He lived in his own little world. He always watched tv and played on the computer. I just stayed and tried to stay happy for my kids. I started going to counseling and started taking my kids to see a counselor and one day my youngest daughter she was about 12 or 13 told her dad to please come with her to counseling and he went. He started finding out a lot about his own problems and started going by himself. He now knows he was suffering from severe depression and that a lot of it had to do with his Mom being so manipulative to him throughout his life and he had problems trusting me. We have been married for 26 years and both of our daughters are doing great in college and have been thankful that counseling helped keep our family together. Think positive and know that something good will come out of it.

Answer 6

Don't worry so much,It will be ok. My parents got divorced when I was 4. If they want a divorce,let them. It will be easier.There will be no more fighting,and your parents will be much happier.

Answer 7

sweetie the best thing you can do is to get on your knees and pray and ask God to fix it but if he cant ask him to give you the strenght to go threw it. And trust me its so many thing rite now that you wont or can understand but the only thing that will get you threw until you are older enough to understand is prayers that you send up to God!!

Answer 8

Remember that they love you. It's not about you; it's them. I know you don't want this....if you can, talk to your mom or your sis about it.