i am in high school and it just dosnt seem fair! how do i know for sure? will my friends abandon me? wat about my parents, will they accept me? i no its agianst the bible, but i still believ in God and love going to church! please help!!!
2007-02-26 10:07:55 · 10 answers · asked by Hottie101 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In high school (and college) you are experimenting with who you are, to find out who you are inside. Saying "I'm lesbian." "I'm Gay" or "I'm Bi." so young just restricts things that could have been. You must keep your mind open to ALL possibilities.
That said I give you this:
One of a parents biggest fears when it comes to their child being gay is how it could negatively impact the way that others view their child.
Also, it can vary among parents (i.e. mother and father)
A mothers long term worries usually revolve around not having any grandchildren
A father tends to view such a scenario with dissapointment.
Things such as this tend to be particularly painful things in casres where they are around other parents who are speak about their own children. A parent will often subconciously compare their child to others, which will likely lead to dissapointment in the situation that their child is "socially unacceptable".
As for friends, if you have good freinds, they will stand by you. Things can be akward, but you must stress the fact that it is the same "you" that has always been, nothing has changed.
Being in a similar situation to yours I can understand what you're going through. Over time things may calm down, but until then your faith in yourself will be tested. Stay true to what you believe in and take a stand if you must.
2007-02-26 10:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of those questions can't be answered by people online. We don't know your friends and cannot judge their reactions, but I would suggest talking with your most open minded friend first. Also, if you know a friend is homophobic, don't tell them. The same thing goes for your parents. If they are accepting and non judgmental they could be good people to talk to and to help you out. Otherwise wait until you can support yourself. There are several discussions about the bible part and I personally think that people can be gay or bi and still believe in God and go to church. After all, the Christians' believe in the Old Testament yet they eat pork and eat meat and cheese together. Most of the original rules are not followed because they are impractical and outdated. Most of the rules still followed are moral, and being gay or bi is not immoral. As to what to do, be yourself and see where it takes you. The only way you can be sure is to explore your feelings. High school is a confusing time in everybody's life. You don't need to define yourself this minute. Relax, enjoy life, and remember being a teenager is all about the journey to what you will become. You don't need to be what you will be as an adult right now. Good luck.
2007-02-26 10:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not worry about your religion. The Bible is interpretted by many as being against homosexuality, but historically this was not the case. Do some research on it from non-biased sources to give yourself some peace of mind.
If you are only in high school, you don't need to do anything about it yet if you are not comfortable with it. Chances are you won't know for certain if you're bi until you have experimented a little sexually with partners of either sex. If you feel comfortable with that now, go ahead. If not, then wait. I suggest waiting to tell other people until you know for sure, except for the possible exception of a close friend or two IF you feel comfortable telling them and believe that they will accept you and keep your secret as long as you need them to. Because you are only thinking you are bi at this point, I wouldn't worry too much about rejection. I suggest not telling your parents until you are an adult, because that way you will not be under their control if they choose not to accept you. Your friends will probably not reject you for being bi, it's very common and even popular these days. Your parents will probably not approve or just think you are going through a phase. Being out as "bi" tends to be a lot less threatening to people than coming out as gay, especially if you are a girl (for unfortunate reasons, but none the less it's true).
2007-02-26 10:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by kyllonen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider the fact that you may be gay as well.
I wouldn't suggest coming out to your parents until your more independent and self supporting. your friends will still be your friends no matter what. i found that I came out to my friends first. then I went to family. Some friends stuck and some friends ran the other way. I thought my family would be accepting. but no, I was kicked out at 16 and went into foster care. and then after that independent living (at 17 I got my first apartment)
It's a wake up call let me tell you when everyone just turns their back on you. But you realize who was Really on your side when you come out. Congrats on taking the first step.
You go girl, tell the world,
or keep it a secret.
thats your choice
Good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 10:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ENJOY being bi. stop worrying what others think of you. live your life.
i can't believe ppl still hold onto the church after knowing of its ridiculous history (i.e.crusades, killing those who question the book like the earth at the center of the universe)
2007-02-26 10:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by scir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do believe in God, then you'd know that He is against that. Read Leviticus 20:13, and Romans 1:26-27. If you read them, you'd see that we are not born gay, but we make the decision to be. Plus, believing in God does not mean loving HIm, those are two different things. So if you love Him, you'd show it by doing what He deems right. I know it is hard to resist temptation most of the time, but you can do it. In the end, it's really up to you.
2007-02-26 10:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by Karen M 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Figure out your sexuality and learn to accept it. Then go from there.
2007-02-26 15:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ASK THEM FIRST. THEN IF THEY AGREE WITH YOU TELL THEM. IF THEY DON'T AGREE WITH YOU DON'T TELL THEM AND JUST SAY THAT YOU WERE JUST WONDERING IF YOU WERE?HOPE THIS HELPS.
2007-02-26 10:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Micky ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to do anything. you dont HAVE to tell anyone just tell people when you feel comfortable about it.
2007-02-26 10:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋