Would you be HAPPY - JOYFUL - PROUD - ELATED if your child or parent decided that they were gay, bi, etc...
OR, knowing it is NOT RIGHT - you would be sad. Even if you would accept them - you would NOT be HAPPY.
2007-02-26 10:07:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
If my child announced that they were gay or bisexual, I actually would be happy- that they were able to be honest about who they were, and we're at peace with it, unlike so many people who live their lives in secrecy, denial, and shame because they fear ill treatment from "really lovely" people like you. So yes, I would be joyful, and especially proud of them for having the courage to be open about who they are.
I knew someone who lived an "alternative lifestyle," and also had the misfortune of having a mother much like you. Her mother's reaction was so hostile, it ended up creating a rift between them that lasted for years, until her daughter died. You can't imagine the regret that woman has now, knowing that her "Christian morality" destroyed the last precious years she could have had with her only daughter. Only now can she realize how stupid, trivial, and damaging all her "moral outrage" was. I also knew a teenage boy who grew up in a conservative family, and killed himself out of shame because he was gay. THAT'S the cost of intolerance.
Way to go. Jesus would be so proud of all of you, wouldn't he?
2007-02-26 12:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by M L 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I don't think many people could claim to say they'd be ecstatic if their child admitted to them that they were gay. Putting aside the stigma that homosexuality still carries and most likely will for many years, people who are not gay have a hard time coming to terms with anyone's alternative lifestyle. I think a question revolving around whether or not parents are happy with such a revelation is perverse. Since when is it written that our children are to make us happy by their lifestyles?
I think what's more important is that a loving parent... let alone one who claims to be Christian and one who strives to live a Christ-like life should accept ANYONE for who or what they are with the same type of unconditional love the Bible instructs us to treat others with.
I'm not gay and I come from a family of two Christian parents who have attended church, studied their Bibles and done what they can to life a lifestyle that reflects Christ and His teachings. I am also sure that if I did tell them I was gay, even though I'm sure their reaction would not be one of joy and celebration, they would still love and accept me as their son and would not disown me or be ashamed of me.
It should also be noted that those two born-again Christian parents are also Liberals and life-long Democrats. Now I'm sure you think that's a contradiction and that they're obviously not as holy and pure as you are, but I just think it's that they've learned in their Christian walk not to be judgemental or hateful towards anyone.
I think straight people would be a lot better off to stop worrying about whether or not homosexuality is right or wrong. The last time I checked, there is no one among us who is free of sin and sin is sin. God doesn't look at homosexuals with anymore disapproval that he looks at... oh, lets say Christians who drag His name through hatred and intolerance and push more people away from His word.
Here's an idea, why don't Christian parents just pray for their gay kids and pray that God helps them love them the way He would want them to.
2007-02-27 13:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. I would be just as happy as your parents were when you decided that you would be straight.
2. I woud be HAPPY, JOYFUL, PROUD, ELATED for my child.
3. I would be happy that they have done the same as Jesus, didn't he have 12 men following him around everywhere and never go married or had any kids. (Connect the dots)
4. I see Dick Cheney is pretty happy.
5. May god have mercy on your soul.
2007-02-27 14:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who made you the judge of what is right or not right? My child's sexual preference would be none of my business and I find the fact that you would be so interested in your child's sex life disturbing to say the least. I want my child/parent to be happy, that is what matters to me. As long as they are harming no one, I would be happy for them. I pity any child whose parent teaches them that intolerance and hate is acceptable.
2007-02-27 17:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by alessa_sunderland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want my child or parent to be happy in whatever lifestyle they deem fit.
Who says it's not "right"? Love is too rare as it is, and to believe just because someone's gay it's wrong. Love is LOVE!
2007-02-26 18:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by HiKo73 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
who says its 'not right' i have no right to judge anyone. only GOD has that right.
id be glad that they stood up for what makes them happy. it would be weird, but hey, they are happy.
cheneys kid is gay, he supports them, and yet cons denounce gays. the pastor from that giant church, was anti gay and he was caught by the cops with meth and a gay prostitute. then there is frmr congressman (R) Foley. he was trying to have sex with a 16 year old BOY.
repubs are hypocrites.
2007-02-27 14:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kevy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, now me. (since I never asked for your opinion). I would be happy if any of my family memebers who suffered so dearly from having to hide their identity, finally felt empowered to live thier lives openly. As far as people like you who would never be happy for your own child's happiness, it is because you are selfish and only care about your bloodline being carried out. You would 'accept' but not 'be happy for' a child's infertililty as well. i feel bad your children never experienced a mother who put her happiness AFTER her children's. And if they don't feel cheated, i feel bad for their children as well..
2007-02-27 13:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I know that an alternative lifestyle is not right for me, that doesn't mean I'm going to force my hetero lifestyle on my son or daughter if they happen to be gay. It wouldn't make me happy, but it's their life and it is they who are in charge of their own happiness. And, I am in charge of my own happiness. They aren't evil people, nor are they cursed, or wicked or all those aweful hatefilled negative words you conservatives like to place on them. They are people just like you and me who are trying to find their own way in life with some kind of happiness. And, it doesn't hurt you that they are gay.
2007-02-26 18:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
You made your point, you don't care for gays or lesbians and hope your kids don't, if you have any. Why can't you just accept the fact that some people enjoy the company of the same sex? I would be happy if they were truly loved, gender is much less important. I think it would be easier to be heterosexual in our society, but it's getting better if your not. These people are not criminals, it's your morality that ends up getting your panties in a wad, not theirs.
2007-02-26 18:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
I care enough about my family members to want THEM to be happy. If being happy means they explore another lifestyle, that's fine as long as long as things are consentual and everyone is of age.
I am not the judge of them or their actions, but I am happiest when I see them enjoying life and being loved/in love. I don't get to choose who pleases them/they please.
2007-02-26 18:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by hgheartland 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋