. I dont want to tell him to his face that i think he is ugly and i dont like him because i might hurt his feelings. I told him before that i just want to be friends but it seems like he is just not getting it. He is 14 years old in the 7th grade and i am only 12. He keeps saying that age dont matter but i think it do. Also he really likes me and he has braces and he has a girls name. So what should i tell him?
2007-02-26 10:00:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay dear---you are so young to have to worry about such things, and please hear me out when I tell you----YOU DON'T OWE HIM AN EXPLANATION!!!! As a girl, your life will be filled with many occassions in which a guy is pursuing you and you may not be interested----and it's no one's fault if you simply do not feel any attraction (even if it is partially because you don't think he's cute). Don't tell him he's ugly, that can only be hurtful and it is not needed. If he is pressuring you to give some reason why you don't want to be his girlfriend (typical! annoying, and stressful!) ---just tell him you have your own reasons, your own private thoughts---and you hope he will (despite the fact that he is very young and immature in dealing with girls)---that he will respect your decision. I know---as a young woman---that one of the worst mistakes we women make is always being too sensitive to a guy's feelings even when he is pushing us into a stressful corner---please please please----put yourself first! It is not your job to protect his feelings, he's a kid, he'll be fine....don't be so afraid that you will hurt his feelings and stand your ground. You have authority in your own life--- if he keeps trying to convince you to tell him something more, hang up the phone..... oh and by the way, when you are much older, 2 years won't make a difference, but right now, you are an elementary schooler!!!! Not dating age yet---- he needs to cut out the pursuit, it IS inappropriate.
2007-02-26 10:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cdub719 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I could imagine how uncomfortable you would be being around him when he feels the way that he does...Then again, he is a good friend, so if I were you, I would simply mention that you are not ready for a realationship @ the moment , and to be honest and not hurtful, I like you to much as a friend that I would not want to ruin what we have.... I am sure that he will understand that... Wishing you all the best, if that does not work, I then would have no choice and listen to what my gut feeling tells me..If I am uncomfortable, then I would just simply have to remove myself from that situation....
2007-02-26 18:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first try and spare the boys feelings, be nice but firm when you tell him you are not interested in him, and try to explain that you are only 12. If it would help you any say my parents wont let me date right now cause I'm 12. If he still doesn't get it you may have to go to your parents to let them know you have a stalker/harraser. that will do what is nessisary to get him to leave you alone.
2007-02-26 18:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by denny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might as well tell him the truth. i would want to know the truth than a lie that makes me happy. and he's right age doesn't matter but if you don't like him tell him.
2007-02-26 18:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋