Have you had an interacial relationship?

Question

Did you ever feel self-concious about it? What were some of the things you faced? How did you deal? Was it very different from dating someone of you race? I am white and in love with a black man. This is a first to me and Im just wondering if my feelings are normal!!

Answer 1

I have dated interacially and I still am with the same man. He makes me feel wonderful.To me it doesn't matter about your race and if you love someone then you love them for who they are and not the color of their skin. Color is nothing but genetics. As long as he loves you right i say go for it.

Answer 2

I dated a black man for a while, we were very compatible, never felt self-conscious about it, didn't really care what others thought. Well about the only thing I faced was most people asking why my b/f was black, and I would say why is your b/f short, and not in height. It was not different than dating someone from my own race, it was a b/f and we cared and loved each other. but we both moved on and are still friends. Good luck with your relationship.

Answer 3

i am a white male and i dated an oriental female when i was 25. she was 22. the biggest challenge was dealing with her parents. the parents did not like the idea of their daughter dating a non-oriental. i also had to very quickly learn about their culture and their attitudes, ie, she was never really good at expressing emotions.

as far as i went, i was never self-concious about anything. it was my first relationship, so it was a little scary, but also a relief. all those years until i finally found someone willing to give me a chance.

my inexperience and insecurities proved to be the downfall. i was in too much of a rush to have a serious relationship and i scared her off. she only seemed to want casual dating and i already had us married.. lol

bottom line, race shouldn't be an issue. if you've got a partner that you are comfortable with and enjoy spending time with, then don't worry about what other people say.. but do take the time to learn about their background, their values, their cultures, and upbringings.. more you learn, the more you will understand why they are the way they are.. simple as that! good luck to you..

Answer 4

I have dated out of my race several times, and the main differences were cultural. There seems to be a subtle class difference, by which, the other person's status is elevated because of the association with a white woman. Why, I don't know, but it is there. You may also find an exaggerated system of compliments, which don't quite ring true, but replaces the usual greetings which you know and expect. Based on a long history of having to please the boss man, it is difficult at times to get the truth from these people. Keep your personal items intact and don't jump in too fast, and be prepared for a lot of jealousy and possessiveness. Maintain a wide circle of friends as you will need them later on for support. Best wishes

Answer 5

Yes, I'm black and dated a white man before I was married and didn't feel a bit self conscious about it. I don't give a hoot about what strangers, or casual acquaintances think about how I choose to live my life on general principle. I didn't get any flack from my family or friends about the relationship. But, then again,though I love them dearly, I usually don't take any crap off my people either. So, I suppose my peeps expressed their opinions behind my back which is the way I prefer it. His people didn't give him any grief about the interracial situation. Our relationship was nice but we grew apart and are both married to other people of our own race. I am now married to someone of the same race but different culture. East meets west and it is quite challenging. I think dating or marrying outside of your culture or religion is much more difficult than marrying or dating outside your race.

Answer 6

Yes. Actually, I've been in 2 Serious Relationships, and a couple here and there kind of bedtime things. They were all of other races. Not alot of other races, just french, macedonian, native american, irish.....and it's not difficult at all. I only speak in a lesbian point of view. Its sad to say that for a white man to love a black man wouldnt be so easy. There are still alot of people who live with their heads up their asses, so unfortunately, it makes it hard for interracial gay men to be together...........just a thought Good luck with all you do, and dont let the man bring you down!!

Answer 7

Yes, I've had interracial relationships. I never had any problems and if I did, that would not have changed anything. As far as it being different from my own race, I'd say no. A person is a person...there is no color in my book.

As for your feeling being normal, I can't say. You seem to really love this man, so that's all that matters.

Answer 8

Well, I have been with my partner for 15 years. (He's Mexican). It really does come up in weird little ways. And the gay community was awful. There are the Mexican boys who gave him crap for being with a white guy. There are the dirty old white guys who think Latins are all Lover-boys. But for the most part, life has been grand getting to know each other's cultures. It is a serious third member of the party, though. (the race issue).

Answer 9

yes i've been in an interracial relationship and yes i did face all kinds of challenges. first of all a lot of staring and bad looks maybe because it was with a girl and second ignorant comments from strangers and my "friends". i really didn't care that much what other people thought about us but it really made me think that why is it that somebody's life can be so boring that they have nothing else to do than to stare at somebody and talk about them in an offensive way. i've got way better things to do than to waste my energy on that but apparently some people don't. the ones who we got the most attention from were usually women in their 50's ( i guess they're the nosiest kind). and yes it is different from dating somebody of your own race because you are gonna be talked about. anyhow i wish the best of luck to you and your relationship in the future.

Answer 10

Awwww, that is so wonderful. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. People are so much more open to things these days than in the past. I'm Jewish and my guy is Anglican Agnostic but he sometimes attends weddings and funerals and stuff and my family is very receptive to him. It's not quite the same but its as close as I've experienced. Go for it and don't look back, you have one life, so fill it with love!