Now an past boyfriend, but at the time a current finance/boyfriend was reading my e-mails. He read 1 from an old friend (boyfriend) and confronted me - stating when he was trying to fix the computer he "happened" to read. Alls it said was he wanted to get together for dinner for which we have not seen each other in years...I was so pissed-off he was reading all my personel mail etc., I was just in shock. (we were together for 7 years)... After that incendent he started looking for a new realionship, without of course telling me. He found one 6/9 months later and never told me.. I "found out" from others in my town, since she also lives here..Who do you think was wrong? How should this have been handled?
2007-02-26 09:56:44 · 4 answers · asked by Blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I never cheated on him.
4 out of the seven years I was seperated from my prior husband.
He had a habit of lying about everything, which I am just finding out.
He was very insecure.
I did go to a holiday dinner that night, but with no intentions and nothing did happen.
Has he cheated on me in the past.. I'll never know.
2007-02-28 08:08:45 · update #1
He was wrong for finding a new relationship and not breaking up with you. That is just a cowards way to excape. I would just get on with you life and go meet someone new, it is not worth dwelling on anymore.
2007-03-02 08:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The area that bothers me the main however, is that she reads his texts each and all of the time and he's not allowed to speak to any females, or any of his friends she does notlike. He makes use of his Msn to speak to the human beings he's not allowed to, yet she will continuously come to the pc an ask who he's conversing to an initiate analyzing the conversations. it is not superb. He has by no skill been out, by no skill drank, nor ever completed any sort, or been around human beings doing drugs. He has not something to conceal, yet she wont comprehend that. this is whilst it gets to the ingredient the place a determine has to step returned an provide the newborn a existence. Especialy considering that he stayed abode for 6 months after his dad had a coronary heart atack an watched him, that there proves sufficient adulthood the place a determine should not be analyzing his texts nor Msn conversations.i can comprehend the concerns of a determine, and now and returned, curiousity can get to human beings. it is not a not basic crime, whether that's a breach of have confidence in a feeling. i think of that there is no changing something like this - because of the fact it is all consistent with guy or woman behaviour and character. some mum and dad won't hassle, some mum and dad would pass farther than in basic terms analyzing their adolescents' emails, however the main's, besides the fact that they do - there'll not be able to be a different boundary that determines as to how some distance they might pass. i think of each and each kinfolk contributors has their own technique, and it is not something which would be completely controlled. which you would be able to answer the question, it may well be a quickly NO.
2016-10-16 13:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by rosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this has so many problems. I'm curious to know why after 7 years you hadn't led this around to marriage or at least engaged but I have suspicions as to why. He wasn't ready for marriage and after 7 years knew that it was time to do or die, sink or swim and all the other wonderful expressions we have for what men see as the End of the Bachelor World.
So lets list the problems:
1) he shouldn't have been snooping
2) he didn't trust you. Thats a problem in the relationship but did he have any reason to? Had you previously cheated or anything? or given him reason to suspect it? If you had, than he probably had the right to check up on you.
3) he started a fight with you about the fact that he invaded your privacy. So clearly he was laying blame at you. I bet it's b/c had been doing something wrong that he didn't want you to know about. Perhaps another affair. Figures if he was having one, he would assume you would be. So therefore he figures out a way for it to be a fight about YOU GETTING an email instead of him reading it.
4) Did you have dinner with the ex or just got an email asking you to dinner? B/c if you had dinner with a friend, yes you should have mentioned it to him. Casually like "Hey what you up to Thurs? I was thinking about having dinner wtih Chris but I wanted to make sure you wouldn't be upset about being alone." and then tell him about it when you got back. Honesty is always best. But if you didn't go to dinner with the ex, then he got mad at you for something SOMEONE else wrote--mad b/c someone asked you to eat a meal--and thats beyond your control
5) He sets out to cheat. (again my thought is he already was cheating)
6) Cheats on you
And somehow in all of this you end up wondering if you were wrong. Man those jerks really can do a number on our brains. We can be smart logical women and then when they start being manipulative a--holes we somehow justify that maybe he had a point.
Perhaps I should answer with yes you were wrong--for staying with a loser who is soooo not worthy of you for 7 years!
2007-02-28 06:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Fiance has my password and I have his. I have nothing to hide from him and he should not have anything to hide from me. Honesty is what builds Trust and if its missing, theres nothing left.
2007-03-04 09:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋