How can I mature without being boing or bland?

Question

I'm a colorful young teen but I need to stay full of personality without being childish

Answer 1

Easy. Work your butt off. Thats it. You can act the same, party on the weekends, whatever. As long as your bringing in the dough, you can take a girl out in YOUR car, pay for a movie and dinner, etc. The maturity should come naturally.

Answer 2

You don't have to be childish to stay youthful and colorful. Mature people aren't boring. Mature simply means someone who takes responsibility for their actions, and someone who bases their choices on what is best for them, and others. Shoot, I'm a mature person because I admit to my mistakes, and stay open-minded to other people's ideas, I don't judge people for being different. Plus I'm a mother, so I am always looking into doing what is in the best interest for my family, because I am responsible for them. I live up to my responsibilities. That makes me mature. But am I boring? I love adventure, I'm an artist, I love photography, camping, biking, I love going to the movies, going to the mall, playing with my kids,I love working out, I have a good sense of humor, etc. You can stay youthful and be a mature person at the same time. Trust me, you'll only lead a dull life if you choose to.

Answer 3

It is only when one matures that one becomes interesting.

Children and teens, no offense, are childish because that is the way they are supposed to be. They are concerned with only themselves. Their interests, their friends, even your question is completely about you, centered on you.

The older a person becomes, the more experiences a person has to talk about, the more one person knows about the world, and the more one person can share with another.

If I were you I would find a mentor, an old mentor. You will be surprised by what you learn from that mature person.

One of the revelations of my teen years was when I was visiting my grandma who was about 70. She said that every morning when she woke up and looked in the mirror she was shocked to see an old woman looking back at her.

She explained to me at that time that in her mind's eye she was still 18, lookswise, healthwise, ambition wise, and she never thought about being old until she looked in the mirror. I learned then that she was no different inside of her head than I was inside of mine even though we were 55 years apart. After that I talked to her about everything. She encoraged me to do things my parents would never have approved of, to live with a man before deciding to marry him, to travel the world with a backpack and to join a band, get a tatoo, take risks and most of all, listen instead of talk.

You will find that the more you look outward at the world around you the more you will absorb the color and taste of it all and, that is what makes a person interesting and colorful. Up until now, as a child and now a teen, the colorful personality you have is one you have created. It is pretend. The world will make you who you will become and your personality will be genuine and interesting, don't worry.

Focus your attention on the world, not on yourself, and the world will make you someone interesting to know.

Answer 4

I like the suggestion to work your butt off.

I would also suggest wit and the fearless pursuit of experience. Read some Oscar Wilde. Travel as much as you are able. Listen to good music. Eat good food (I don't just mean healthy, but really genuinely well-prepared... cultivate your palate). There is a whole world of amazing stuff that kids just aren't able to understand (Weezer's Blue Albumn comes to mind). Explore it and learn how to enjoy it!

The people whose company I most enjoy actively seek out intriguing experiences... My wife's grandmother recently took a trip to Australia by herself, and she's 80. She has also been to Burma (look it up), Ghana (fascinating place), Spain, Norway. She was a nightclub singer as a young woman and is presently writing a book, just for kicks!

The world is your oyster! Welcome,

Paulson

Answer 5

Love the question!

Don't try to change your personality, celebrate it!

Use your personality in service to others- both sides will enriched by the experience.

Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful, respectful and considerate. The rest will follow.

And don't ever lose that child inside. He/she will serve you your entire life!

Answer 6

Having an intelligent sense of humor could spice things up.

Answer 7

Have children young...