Ive been married for 3 yrs. Me and my husband have 4 wonderful children. we almost lost our last one and i had to have and emergency csection.... the baby is 5mo old now. The thing is I WANT MORE!! were not on welfare and he works and i stay home/with the babies... i love being pregnant. im sorta sad because it miss that wonderful feeling/// today i broke down in tears to him about it... he didnt answer. :) i think children are Gods way of sayin the world will go on, and thats proof... Should i have more babies? please dont answer if you are going to say something mean to me....
2007-02-26 09:27:31 · 13 answers · asked by thumbalinapink 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if you can afford it go ahead and populate the world some more!! But I think you should get your hubby on board first. You don't want to be divorced with 5 kids thats for sure.
2007-02-26 09:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, and I thought I had kids quick...I have had 3 kids in 4 1/2 years of marriage. Anyway, I think if you want to have kids and you can take care of them and everything that that's great. But to me your reasoning just doesn't make sense, and I'm a very religious person. Many other people keep having kids each and every day, do you need to have them yourself for the proof you need? And if you stop having kids, will you world end? I'm not trying to be mean or say you shouldn't have kids, just that your reasoning is strange to me. Plus if you feel you are a health risk for pregnancies, do you want to risk losing your next baby. I too love being pregnant, and giving birth, and having a newborn. I myself have a 6 month old, and am already considering another. But for the sake of my own health and sanity, and giving my children attention, I'm going to wait until the youngest is at least a year...but more likely 2-3 years. Also your husband needs to make this decision with you.
2007-02-26 17:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have five boys and am now 27 weeks pregnant with my baby girl! I have alot of people tell me that they think im crazy and they dont know how i do it, and at times i even think that bout myself, lol! But......i love all my boys dearly and wouldnt change the fact that i have chose to have five (on # 6 )!!! I was married for almost 7 years to my exhusband, my 3 oldest boys are by him and we share joint custody and then my youngest two boys and the one on the way are by my fiance (husband in bout 3 weeks)! Like you my fiance makes good money and we arent on welfare, so i feel that as long as we can support them and have the patience for them then THATS GREAT!!! also, i had 5 miscarragies before having my first (dr arent real sure why, RH-) but......i thot for awhile that i would never be able to have a baby and the thot of that is AWFUL! i tell myself all the time, that 6 kids is alot to most people but i would rather have my 6 wonderful children that i have then not to be able to have ANY!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 19:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by hello :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky, if you are finacially able and mentally able!!! GO FOR IT! I want more so bad, but finacially, it's not the smartest thing, so we will wait for awhile and revisit that idea in six months and see if anything has changed. Hey girl, my hubby comes from a family of eight brothers and sisters all together! Go for it if you can!
But if your husband didn't answer you... maybe you should just wait a few weeks/months and then revisit the subject again with him. Guys are different. Talk to him on a day where you're not broken down in tears and you're showing your strong-confident, super-mom self, then maybe the conversation will be more open.
God bless you and your family! Children are a blessing aren't they!!!
2007-02-26 17:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want more babies and can afford them and love them, then have more. Maybe not right now, since your youngest is still so little, but there's nothing wrong with having more than 4 kids! I want 4-5 in the future, and so does my boyfriend. I know a woman who has a 19 year old son, a 9 year old girl, a 7 year old girl, a 5 year old girl, AND a 2 year old girl. And she's fine, financial-wise and sanity-wise! Good luck!
2007-02-26 17:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More power to you girl! I do have to agree with you though-I enjoyed being pregnant despite the difficulties that I had with both of my pregnancies and I still want more but my hubby is not too thrilled with the idea either!! I feel that if you have the finances to afford to have more childrent than I think it's great. Love makes the wrold go round don't get me wrong but love doesn't put food on the table and dipers on the babies bottom right? I do believe that God doesn't give us more than we can handle but I also believe that our husbands can't handle the stress of having to think about more mouths to feed!!!!! LOL!!!
I wish you much luck and happiness in you life!
2007-02-26 17:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by lisastevens74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so with you but at least wait till your baby girl is 1 year old and if you are a family that is educated and that has money to support them than you could have another one just wait a couple months more and yes children are great i have a 2 1/2 week old baby girl
2007-02-26 17:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥TaTyAnA's MoMmY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal decision, but it sounds like you are using pregnancy to foster the feeling of love and compassion. Try to get that love from other places, from your husband, from your children, from a small pet. Just know that you can have as many children as you want but you need to be able to financially support them.
2007-02-26 17:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hats off to you, I am on my third pregnancy and I have already asked for my tubes to be tied when they do the c-section. My body is totally worn out. If you and your husband want more kids that is totally up to you, if you could afford it, have the room go for it. No one could tell you what to do with your life and your right children are a blessing to have.
2007-02-26 17:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by shady20001978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband was probably just confused and having never been in that situation before, he probably just didn't know what to say...and to avoid saying the wrong thing and upset you even more, he opted for the 'stay silent' method....don't be angry with him.
If you and your husband can look after more children, then go for it. This really isn't our decision to make though, it's yours.
Follow your heart, honey!
2007-02-26 17:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋