2007-02-26 09:25:10 · 32 answers · asked by BobbiL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him before you both become bitter, miserable and filled with hate. Get your head together and work out what you want. You should not have made a commitment to this man if you were not sure of your feelings. However if your feelings have changed because he or you have changed I suppose it cant be helped - move on for both of your sakes and sanity.
2007-02-26 09:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
Hi! I know it is hard! It is so easy to just give up or quit. Staying in love and making a marriage work is exactly that.....WORK. Romance and all that goes with it doesn't just happen you have to keep the energy going on a constant basis. There are alot of ideas on line. Remember that a man is a man is a man and all he needs to feel that you love him is sex. We as woman need more. I once read a saying.... If you want to be loved then be lovable. Usuall when I think I am falling out of love I ask myself why...He doesn't abuse me, he comes home everyday, he doesn't get drunk and do stupid stuff, he provides for the family. All the rest of his quirks are tolerable and if you start to put notes in his lunch or anywhere he will find them he usually picks up the hint and starts to look at you point. Just don't make the notes be nasty or nagging. Just I love you notes. Have a nice day. THinking of you. He'll wonder what is up and then want to talk to you and then you can say something like I want you to notice me and love me and tell me I'm beautiful and sexy and that I am a good wife,I want you and I to discuss and not argue I want you to like my ideas and I really want to love you forever. You will be surprised. Sounds corny but it really works. Even on the hardest most stubborn men. If you can't say it then write it. Either way if your positive you will usually get positve back. I have so much more to say to you but I have 5 kids and they are fighting in the kitchen right now and I have to go play referee. Good luck sweetie and keep the hope alive.
Joce
2007-02-26 09:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joce 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to find the things you really do love about him and try to hold on to that. If for some reason you already finding this a loss cause, I suggest you file for a separation and see if, in fact, you have fallen out of love with him.
sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. If your heart feels better not having him at all and you feel like a a big burden has been lifted off your shoulders, then, I think this cause for a divorce. Grant it, if you can afford to go to a therapist to talk things out and see if you are making the right decision, then, I would do that. Good luck.
2007-02-26 09:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spend extra time together - think about what first drew you to your husband - focus on the positive things that he does rather than the negative - Remember marriage is for better or worse there will always be ups and downs in any relationship -
That being said I am not sure what the issues are in your relationship but Good Luck!!
2007-02-26 09:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by sydney 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Think about why you are falling out of love with him. Try to figure out the problem and try to overcome it.Love isn't wasy. There are going to be times when you think it's not working but as long as there is love there,then you can work on it together.You should talk to him after you do some thinking. Try and figure out what has happened or not happened to make you start feeling this way.I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-26 09:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by JAMIE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try falling back in love with him. Think of all the cute things he did when you first met, and the things you have gone through. Go on special dates a night a week.
2007-02-26 10:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kari R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should quit thinking about the other guy and start concentrating and putting your energy into your marriage with your husband! I could be wrong on this statement but 99% of the time a spouse will say they fell out of love with their spouse is because they are being manipulated or turned on by someone else.
2007-02-26 09:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since love is action and not a feeling, stop looking to your feeling to indicate if you are in-love with your husband or not.
Love is action, so what loving actions did you do when you first met your husband?
Start there.
Ask him to do the things he did when you first met as well. Be prepared to list them for him, so he knows exactly what you mean.
Perhaps ask him what was the most memorable thing when you were first dating, or what you did that let him know that you loved him, and start doing that.
Ask him to do the same, that one thing that you specifically enumerate that speaks love to you.
Feelings come and go, but you can choose to love everyday.
What is your choice today?
2007-02-26 09:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you falling out of love, or just bored? Don't BS yourself, be honest. Either he has changed, or you have. Find out who, how and why.
Or look at what your expectations are of the marriage. Are they realistic or a dream that only comes true in books.
If you don't love him, leave him. Life is too long to be miserable.
2007-02-26 09:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by David A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you aren't falling out of love. Maybe you just let the romance and sensuality die in your relationship. Try to get it back! Try to remember why you fell in love with him in the first place, go out on dates together again, make long, hot passionate love.
2007-02-26 09:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
love is a decision not a feeling. once the honeymoon stage is over we move to a different stage, perhaps u are still looking for that excitement stage, maybe u are immature and shallow. marriage isn't all romance and wonderful, it does have its problems too. whatever circumstances u are going through should not cause u to fall out of love, this is all about you, and what is going on inside u. best to seek some therapy.
2007-02-26 09:30:43 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋