should you......?

Question

tell your parents your pregnant as soon as you find out, or should you wait? I am 18 years old and have been with my bf for 2 years and love every bit of him!! weve told his parentsbutmine dont have a clue, everytime we go to tell them, we "get scared and avoid the subject. How did your convo go with your parents when you told them you were prego???

Answer 1

Well my mom figured it out before I did (I was 20). So, no help there. I was married, and 28, this time and she was the first to find out (after my husband) and was happy about it.

My advice is this, if you've already told his parents - it's only a matter of time before it gets to other people. If you think it's going to be hard now, only imagine if they heard about it from someone else who assumed they already knew! Just be honest with your parents. If they're not happy about, realize they have thier reasons (be it they think you're too young, not married, etc) and respect that, but tell them in return they need to respect your (and your b/f's) feelings. Eventually, they'll come around and they'll love their grandchild and, more than likely, spoil him/her completely rotten!! Babies have a way of melting hearts!

Answer 2

I'm also 18 and pregnant, and I am about 11 weeks along. I told my mom when I was 8 weeks, because we are very close, and I live with my boyfriend so it's not like she was in shock that we were having sex. I told her on the phone, and she came right over and hugged me. He told his mom the same day, and she's already buying bibs and diapers. I STILL haven't told my dad, because I'm not able to get up with him. Oh well, his loss I guess. I am a little scared to tell him, but I'm a big girl and I'll be fine. If you're still living with your parents, you should go ahead and clue them in so they won't feel betrayed when you come home one day and say you've been pregnant for 5 months and you just didn't tell them. My best friend did that when she was 16, and she and her mom still do not speak to each other (her parents are divorced and she had to move in with her dad). If you don't live with them, it's safe to wait until you're at least 2 months, or 10 weeks, so you're getting further away from the risk of miscarriage. 14 weeks is when you start the second trimester and the risk of miscarriage lowers, and the time you'll start showing is getting closer! Definitely clue them in by this time, so they can be in on your life. I'm sure they will be supportive as long as you are open, honest, and willing to share this new life with them. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would go ahead and tell your parents, because you don't want them to find out from someone else. That would hurt more. If you are scared to tell your parents, then more than likely they will probably be upset when they find out, but most of the time that passes. Parents have high expectations of their children, and feel that a baby will ruin their lives.
My parents were upset at first, but were happy and supportive once they came to grips with it.

I suggest that you and bf, decide on a day to tell them and stick to it. Tell yourself, that midnight will not come without them knowing. Just make a commitment to say it on a certain day.

A burden will be lifted once, you tell them and if they are mad or not you will feel so much better.

Go for it....Hope that helped.

Answer 4

The first time I was pregnant I was 18 too and was terrified to tell my mom she was such a strict person. But the funny thing is that when I finally told her she wasn't upset she wasn't excited about the idea but at least she didnt yell and scream she was more like well your pregnant there is nothing I can say or do now and really helped me through it. Its hard being pregnant and worse to stress about things. Just tell them they might take it better then you think? Now 5 years later they are more excited about my pregnancy then the last one although they still love their grandchildren regardless.

Answer 5

After I was married, my mom kept asking "Is there a baby yet? Are you pregnant yet?" So she was just waiting for her grandbaby to come along.

You are an adult and should just go and tell them. You and your boyfriend should take your parents out to dinner and just tell them why you brought them out. Why are you so scared? You already told his parents. I hope the two of you are mature enought to handle a baby if you can't even tell your parents you're having one!

Answer 6

When I was prego w/ my first, I told them at about 8 weeks along. I was really scared, but realized, its not THEM taking care of the baby, but ME. So, whatever they have to say doesnt really matter... This is about you, not them.

Congrats on you pregnancy!

Answer 7

what i did is that i ranaway from my house and i went with my boyfriend and i was like 5 months and i live with him for 5 months after i had my baby i went back home and i SUPRISED them,but i regret it cause when it was time for labor i needed my mom's help andshe didnt even find out so now im happy and i did wrong about runingaway thing but my mom tells me you should of told me! so now life goes on . but i think that u need to tell them'.

Answer 8

I think you should tell them right away. I told mine, I think they already had an idea, but My husband and I had been married for 3 years and they knew we wanted kids.

Answer 9

well my mom had an idea yet my mom and i were very close..... but my dad was pissed then when he saw my little girl he wasn't mad any more he was even in the delivery room with me and my bf and his mom.... now my bf family was very different it was basically like this he introduced us and then said oh yeah she's pregnant

Answer 10

You know you've always wanted a grandchild?