sexuality?

Question

does it mean im a lesbian if i fantasise about being with a woman?im married and have 3 children, i love my husdand but sometimes i find myself pictureing a women when he is going down on me and having to really block out that it is him...i was with women when i was younger but just excperimenting ,,,,,i think. im kinda worried about myself my youngest is 4 months and i would hate to do this to my kids and my husband.. HELP

Answer 1

Fatasies are pretty healthy things...it keeps the sex interesting. I fantasize all the time about things I know wont happen, but it is exciting and it stimulates me. They say the mind is the most powerful sexual organ and I tend to agree with that. Just because you fantasize about another woman doesnt mean to say you are a lesbian....it does mean that it enhances the feelings you have during sex. I have fantasies about my partner having sex with another woman....it is really exciting, but I dont think I could handle it in person...I would probably get a little jealous because maybe he would enjoy her too much.....lol.....I have also had fantasies about my doctor...but he is a happily married man....I dont fancy him, but its a naughty thing to think about. I think we all think about "naughty" things to stimulate us, but that doesnt mean we actually go ahead and do it. I think you would know if you were a lesbian or not. I have been with another woman too when I was younger and it was an extrememly exciting experience, but I know I am purely hetrosexual because I love the feeling of a mans body....I reckon I could do it again if my partner was willing, but that doesnt make me bi-sexual or a lesbian. You know if you are hetrosexual or not. Fantasies are very healthy...thats why they call them fantasies because its not real...its our minds way of stimulating us further. I'm sure if everyone talked about their fantasies openly we would think there are some real sicko's out there...but they arent...they think of things that get them excited and very few people actually go out to experience their fantasy in the flesh.

Fantasies keep us interested in sex....it makes us want to experiment,.....to get to the highest possible high we can when we are intimate with our mate, and if thinking about a woman going down on you gives you a high, then accept it. I bet if you told your husband he would probably get off on the thought...maybe he could share with you some of his fantasies...maybe it could be a very exciting time for both of you. Just enjoy whatever it is you think about that gets you high, you are harming no-body, probably making it even more enjoyable for both you and your husband because you are getting right into it.

Answer 2

First of all, calm down. Second of all, you are not the only woman to ever have fantasies about women. It happens all the time. You said you experimented with woman when you were younger. Did you like it? How long did you go out with women or had sexual relations with them? What caused you to get married to your husband? Were you generally in love with him?
You are putting way too much in this. you could either be a straight woman who just happens to fantasize about women (which a lot of straight women do) or you may be bi.
Continue fantasizing about women, enjoy your husband and enjoy being a mother.

Answer 3

a million. Whats your gender? MALE 2.Whats your sexuality? BI 3.Whats your romantic charm? the two 4.would you ever have intercourse with the/A gender your not attacted to? relies upon 5.replace into your loved ones accepting? KINDA 6.Do you hate being your sexuality(tell why)? NO because of the fact i'm happy 7. in case you ought to alter your sexuality would you? NO 8.in case you have been/Are a transgender, would you act on it? DONT comprehend 9.while you're gay/quickly/bi ect... would you have intercourse with a female/boy/the two if payed(tell why)? sure WHY not 10. Do you think of sexualities a decision, or do you think of your born with it, or do you think of your born with out sexuality whether it develops over the years and thats your locked sexuality(tell why)? the two some human beings experience that's IN THEM some experience that's stepped forward like each and every experience OF LIKES AS you're uncovered TO IT 11. Did you ever/plan on comming out? sure 12. Do your mum and dad comprehend? sure ISNT THIS KINDA LIKE question #5? SEAN

Answer 4

I think everyone is curious about the same gender. If you were experimenting with women before, and havent in a while, maybe you are due, haha. The question is what you have to do. Control the feeling and be happy with what you have. You have a husband who you love and 3 children. Make there lives the best that you can. Be the best mother you can be. If that means staying with your husband and controling you want to do with women, do it. Its all for your kids, and they will be thankful for it in the end. If it bothers you so much, talk to your husband. You are in love with him and if you are in love you could go and talk to him about anything and trust him with that information. It could just be a phase, but relax and like I said focus on your kids, it will all work out.

Answer 5

If you desire women more than men, then you would probably be considered as a lesbian. If you are into both, then you would be considered as bi-sexual. However, the main issue is whether these fantasies are such that you want to make them real. It would not be hard in some respect as you have really had such experiences before.

I know women who claim that no one but another woman truly knows how to please a woman. As logical as that is, I also know women who believed that until they met a man who was as pleasing as a woman. Go figure.

A therapist might be able to help you sort this out especially in light of how this may or may not affect you family. This is important to you.

Answer 6

Being sexually attracted to women doesn't affect your husband or your children any more than being sexually attracted to men does.

You are married. You don't get a special sex pass just because you realize that you are into women as well.

If you talk to your husband about your desires it is likely that he'll encourage you to bring home a woman to satisfy your desires, as long as he gets to watch or even participate. That will probably be the end of your marriage though, as much as I'd like it to dream otherwise.

Answer 7

Notice all the answers were bout you not your children.Something is trying to rehaunt you since you left something undone.your children will be the ones suffering if you choose to be selfish.There is an attack spiritually on your family and their future.Look at the big picture,the end results.There is only 1 sure way out. Jesus Christ Nobody else in here will care about your family nor your future, just how you feel for a session.One session can ruin your entire future like it has for others. Don't give in your not a lesbian. Give your life to Jesus and He will take care of your family and your future.I know some might not believe me, but I'm living proof.

Answer 8

I do not believe you are a lesbian because of your fantasies. You experimenting when you were younger-you are remembering those. You said you love your husband. Start thinking about that it is him going down on you when he does, that will help you feel better. Take care.

Answer 9

Is it just the sex you want with women or do you find yourself wanting a woman's companionship as well....ask yourself those types of questions to determine your real needs

Most of us woman do fantasize about another woman from time to time and its natural and nothing to worry about.

You have a lot of new responsibilites on you and your subconscious mind is probably wanting the simpler time in life which included being with a woman. It'll pass....

Don't do anything drastic though, just play it out and enjoy your fantasies!!!!

Answer 10

do to the sexually charge world of men there are more Lady's show on a screen around the world then men and i am not surprised that your thinking your my be a lesbian but remember it is a fantasy not reality. now if you feel from the bottom of your heart that you love a women more then a man then yes you can be a lesbian.