some of you may recognize my screen name as I was on here everyday answering and asking questions about pregnancy. Well, after 3 years of trying to get pregnant with our 2nd baby, we finally got pregnant. we were so happy.. March 1, 2007 would have been my due date. I gave birth to my beautiful baby on Feb 2, 2007, but as a still born. I went to the hospital because I hadn't felt my baby move. When i got to the hospital, they did confirm with a heart doppler and an ultrasound that my baby had no heartbeat, therefore he was deceased. We are heartbroken. I have been visiting him at the cemetary everyday. This Friday will be 1 month since he was born. There isn't a day that goes by were i don't think about him. we still have his nursery up. The day I came out of the hospital was suppose to be my baby shower.
We miss him soooo much.. has anybody else had a stillborn. how did you cope.
I really want another baby, NOT to replace my baby boy, but I think it will bring back some joy to home
2007-02-26 08:59:13 · 8 answers · asked by green eyes 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am so sorry for your loss. I have tears in my eyes and they're about to fall as I write this. I wish you the best no matter what you decide.
2007-02-26 09:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for the loss of your very loved and very wanted little baby. I too lost a child on June 4, 2005. While she lived 14 minutes, she never moved, never took a breath, never cried (I think the doctor was being very kind when he said that she had been born alive - I have my doubts). I know all too well the ache that you're going through right now.
A year later I learned I was pregnant again and delivered a healthy baby boy on November 17th (healthy, albeit 3 months early!). Having lost a child and then go on to become pregnant a year later can be, and was for me, an emotional rollar coaster. You're thrilled at being pregnant again, yet terrified at the possibility of losing another child. So many worries and questions. But if you'd like to chat about this further or if you'd like a list of some support groups for subsequent pregnancies after loss, then please do let me know and I'd be happy to help in any way that I can.
2007-02-26 09:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Brina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i'm crying. I am so sorry to hear that. I have never experienced it, but one of my best friends had that happen to her. She was 8 months and she had gone to the doctor and they couldn't find the heartbeat so they sent her to the hospital, where they found an heartbeat nor movement. needless to say what happened after that. I agree it will bring joy back, my friend is pregnant with another baby now her little girl would have been 2 years old. Just keep your head up. i know i don;t know what it feels like, but having seen it, i know how it is like on the mother.
If you need to talk email me!
2007-02-26 09:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by star-e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with my 2nd baby right now (26 weeks) and I am so very deeply sorry for the loss of your son. I hope you can get through this day by day. I cannot even imagine the loss and pain that you are feeling. I want you to know that you and your son are in my prayers.
God Bless :)
2007-02-26 09:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. We lost our baby on Feb 5th, and are still heartbroken. We move on, because we have to, but sometimes it just catches us by surprise. I think the hardest part is our older children, my five year old especially is still upset, and cried just this morning because he wanted to 'dig her up and say he loved her still'. First he was mad because *I* 'gave her away', so it's my fault, and then he started to cry.
Try to focus on the good things, your lovely son and husband, and all the wonderful things that God has given you. That's what i do anyway, and speaking of....my blessings are needing me now!
2007-02-26 09:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I cant imagine the pain you feel. Just remember there is a reason for everything, and you must stay strong for your family. Of course you should try for another baby, but wait until your body and most of all, your heart heals.
2007-02-26 09:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Damn!™sumgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry...the same exact thing happened to my sister. I guess God has a greater plan for these babies. It's very very sad. It's not bad to want another baby and you should have one. Just make sure you give yourself time to grieve. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 09:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your loss I read your question and couldnt help but to feel very very sad. Good luck in everything you do.
2007-02-26 09:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond~ I <3 my Son 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋