am i wrong?

Question

ok get this. i'm 26 and my first true love when i was 13 dumped me cuz he couldn't deal w/ a long term relationship. i see the girl he lost his virginity to and yuck!!!! i'm just now getting back in contact w/ him after over 10 years. i went to myspace and see the girl. i couldn't believe it. so i e-mailed him and said you lost it to that. i'm a lot better looking than her. (i'm not trying to sound arrogant, but everybody who knew me told me that i looked better
and i didn't believe it till now) was i wrong to go off?

Answer 1

If ever you and him were to get together it wouldn't be serious realtionship anyway.

Just cause she's on his myspace means nothing, you're just being insecure. I don't think anything can happen between you if you carry on like this.

So yes i think you was wrong.

Be more mature about it and if there was proof they are together just find someone else.

Answer 2

Yes you were. Sounds like a conceded and arrogant remark regardless of how your perceive it. It's one that makes you catty and immature which might be the real reason he decided not to get into a long term relationship with you in the first place. You were too self centered at that time. Has this changed? Doesn't sound like it from this post.

You have no right to tell him who he should have lost his virginity to and criticize him for it. He may have found her attractive and desirable. A good personality goes a long way, farther than an ugly personality on a attractive woman does.

Everybody that knew you said you were better?? What did you think your friends would say to you?? Wow, his new girl friend is way better than you?? Do you think his friends were saying such things to him?? They probably liked her because he did. Nobody ever really understands what attracts one person to the another.

I can't imagine why he would have a picture on his my space page of a girl from years ago. Unless the relationship was a long term one and then you definitely have no right to criticize her or the relationship. And at 26 you should have evolved well beyond this stuff long ago. You've got a career, been living on your own, had several more boy friends since the one when you were 13. These kind of issues should be irrelevant now that you are an adult. Yet you are trying to rehash them ten years later. Let go and move on. Pettiness and self absorption are so unattractive. He'll dump you again because you are still mean spirited ten years later.

Answer 3

Yes, you're wrong. You have no right to criticize him for his relationship choices in the past. You don't like his choices, that's fine. But keep your opinion to yourself. All you're accomplishing is making him mad by insulting something that he did over a decade ago. You're 26, I think it's time for you to grow up.

Answer 4

umm... yeah. Who cares who he lost his virginity to? And if you are STILL that obsessive about him, there is no more certain way of guaranteeing he won't want to deal with you than to dis the girl he left you for. IF he even remembers you.

And maybe it wasn't looks he was looking for. Maybe he was looking for something you couldn't/didn't offer, and I am NOT saying she put out and you didn't. Maybe he was looking for something else.

If you haven't talked to him in 10 years, WHO CARES????

Answer 5

You said it your 26 a grown woman and you are acting like you are 13, so If that is what he wonted then let it go! Its past, dead and gone, and you should be too!!! GONE, LET IT GO

Answer 6

hell naw
if u look betta than a ho u tell her
go off carzy on that b och
it ant yo fault u look batta than her

Answer 7

Uh...yes....

It's a free country...he can pick whatever girl he wants.

Answer 8

yes you were wrong now go and apologize