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My husband does that to me and makes me feel awful>I think I'm the ugliest woman in the world and my self-esteem isn't that great and it makes me feel worse about myself.Any advice?This really bothers me.

2007-02-26 08:56:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

34 answers

its what is on the inside that counts for me looks are not that important

2007-02-26 09:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by oldjr 5 · 0 0

This is normal for men do it and most women do it to. Just because your on a diet doesn't mean you cant look at the menu, if you get what i mean, your husband is not going to change so don't even try. You will just have to get some of your self esteem back, that way you will have the confidence's to look at other men and see how it makes him feel

2007-02-26 09:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Annemarie E 2 · 0 0

I have this same problem with my husband. My husband would comment on a woman and i would feel really weird. I guess us women when we have a husband or a boyfriend we feel special in knowing that we are the only women in their hearts and minds. This doesnt seem to be true though. I also feel very low of myself when he comments or gets googly eyes over someone. The only advice that i can try to give that I follow myself is to try to ignore it as much as you can. I just play along with my husband when I catch him doing that. I end up making fun of the girl he is looking at because it seems to make me feel a little better. Example: we go to the store and he comments on a girl....i look at her too and say "ya she probably has herpes". Then he says nevermind or makes a weird face. Sometimes it doesnt work but i just try not to pay any attention as much as i can. My husband says that he just likes girls.
To this day I get bothered and weird, but I try not to think about it really hard. Keep your head up and know that you are better than the trash he is probably looking at......Good luck to you :)

2007-02-26 09:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0 0

He does that "to you"? I don't quite get that?

I look at women in general because they're pretty. The female body is a work of art sculpted perfectly on flesh and bone. It is an amazing thing to behold. The male body is a machine, with all the asthetic qualities of a backhoe or dump truck, designed to lift, cary, move, hunt, kill, and till the ground. We're useful, but it always makes me laugh when a man says he feels like a tool, because in reality, he is.
Women, on the other hand, have lines and curves, they're delicate, and perfectly proportioned to attract the eye. They bounce and jiggle, they sway in the wind and light up in the light. Like fine china, they need to be protected against any sort of mark or scratch, because even though that slight mark or scratch could not possibly detract from their overall beauty, it's a sign that they are not properly loved by the one who is supposed to protect them.
My wife is the most beautiful of all, but that doesn't mean that other women aren't beautiful as well. I enjoy all shapes and arangements of the female form, seeing it as a truely beautiful style of art which, like a sunset, only God could hope to produce, and mere mortal artists will spend the rest of their lives trying to emulate.

2007-02-26 09:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0 0

I suggest taking some alone time with him to talk with him about it. Try not to be judgemental, but you can be accusatory, to some extent. He's doing this, no doubt. He doesn't need to do this while he's out with you. He should be focusing on you. As a guy, I find it irritating when my guy friends do this. I can't imagine how awful it must feel as a women to have her man do this. This is a very reasonable request of yours to have him not have his eyes wander all over the place. Allow him a little latitude, but he needs to concentrate on you.

2007-02-26 09:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Mainly because we have eyes.

Both men and women like to dress to look good, and both men and women like to look at others they consider look good. In some animals it is down to scent where others have plumage, strength, dances, or calls to attract a mate.

It is just nature at work, the important thing is that humans CAN resist this attraction and just enjoy the visual appearance.

As stated it is the case in both women and men, it is likely that men are just more overt as our eyes are bulging and our tongues hanging out.

2007-02-26 09:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0 0

This is an intriguing question. Men look at other women for a variation of reasons, I'm a man and I like looking at women for different specified reasons, and as for your husband, he is married to you and you say he looks at other women? Don't be at all concerned with this please, all of us guys look at people and not just women, it is just that you notice he is looking at women cause you're a woman and you are his wife, but when he is looking at buildings, cars, guys walking dogs or whatever, you usually don't notice this because woman notice woman and woman don't like guys they are in love with looking at other woman, but what can you do? God gave us eyes to look, so please do not dwell on this too much, on your question I mean because it isn't about looking beautiful or ugly, it is what is in your heart and in your heart you might try understanding how this whole thing usually operates. Peace and quit worrying.

2007-02-26 09:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Honey 3 · 0 0

There's nothing wrong with husbands checking out other women, or wives checking out other men. But if your husband is doing it to the point to where it embarasses you, makes you feel bad, and makes him look like a jackass, then he needs to quit being such a rubber neck! If he respects you at all he will knock it off. If he doesn't knock it off that means he obviously doesn't respect you. Which raises the question of why you're with him in the first place.

2007-02-26 09:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 1

My husband does it to,, but denies it,,, right in front of me,, just makes me want to slap the s*%& out of him,,, why lie,, admit it and then stop doing it,,, you jack a$$ ,,,, So now I am at the point where I look at guys to,,, and he sees me doing it and just turns and looks at the guy,,, and I just act like I did nothing wrong,, and he does not say a word,,, which is what I want,,, because I am looking and wishing how I would love to have sex with that guy,,, or thinking dam n I bet that guy is good in bed,,, and it would spoil the moment if he said anything,,, so I am so glad he does not say anything,,, because I would have to lie to him,,, ha ha ha,,, and we have been married now 9yrs,,, but now I look at the guys and I am doing it by accident,,,, but it is so natural for me to do it,, so I know he does it for the same reason,,, but he does not do it as much anymore,, because I think he has caught on to it,,, but I really do it by accident,,, why can't we look if they can,,, screw turns both ways,,,

2007-02-26 09:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

when i am out with my girlfriend i tend to look at the kinda shoes other women wear, my girlfriend is visually stunning so i dont want anyone but her and she feels the same about me however like i said my woman is beautiful but she is not the only woman in the world who is beautiful she is the only one i want but at the same time i cant help but notice another woman it is what my mind proccesses with the look , maybe your hubby loves you alot and you are just insecure bout it cause if he didnt want you he wouldnt be seen in public with you , get you some self esteem they sell it now in the form of a facelift, tummy tuck breast reduction or enlargement, and butt implants invest in your future so your hubby can re invest in you lol

2007-02-26 09:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by dmac 3 · 0 0

Try this: Do you have a dress that you are perfectly happy with? Do you also look at other dresses even though you know you won't buy?

Guys are hardwired to look. We can't change it and no we are not comparing you to someone else! It just is. Learn to accept that your husband can be in love with you and still look.

2007-02-26 09:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by Bruce H 3 · 0 0

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