let's get one DAMN thing straight.......................?

Question

Let's get one DAMN thing straight............ it's been me and my boyz for years now and yes they do come in my room and sleep in the bed. I have a King size bed. Yes I have talk to him and gave him every piece of advice that I can and I told him that he can't do that around people and especially in my bed. It's not fu***** gross for kids to sleep in their parents bed. And he has his own bed and his own room he and his brother both come in my room. I only addressed the people with a little more class to give me advice. Not people with their head in the gutter. So thank you for the people that have class and gave me advice.

Answer 1

Its not bad @ all. Just some people are ignorant and think something has to be going on. I mean, they are your kids. geez.
Age also play a factor too.

Answer 2

Lets get one Damn thing straight. Do you really expect cool level headed responses when you start a question out that way. It automatically makes people view you in a negative light. I had no clue what you were talking about so I read your other question, no it is not disgusting for children to sleep in the bed with their parents, but yes it is disgusting for an 11 year old boy to be masturbating while sleeping in his parents bed, with his mom in the bed. You just need to sit him down and let him know that it is something that is perfectly normal, but should be done in private, no big deal. However you are referring to people with class, you should try and have a little yourself. If you post a question you should expect answers from all different kinds of people irregardless of who you intended it for.

Answer 3

I don't think it's gross for kids to sleep in their parents bed. However I do think that there comes an age where it should not be allowed. What that age is I couldn't tell ya lol. My son who is now 5 slept with me until he was almost 4 yrs old. I was a single parent and frankly didn't give a crap if he slept in my bed. He did since the day he came home from the hospital. But, I did have a hard time breaking him of sleeping in my bed. His father and I decided to work things out, we are now married, have another son who is 3 and another boy on the way. It got difficult to try and sleep with three of us in a bed not to mention that I was pregnant at the time with our second. We had to put his toddler bed next to our bed, it took about 6 months before he finally stayed in his bed the whole night and another 6 months before we could move his bed out of our room. I'm not sure how old your kids are, or what approaches you have tried, but if they are younger try what I did, it took a while, but it worked finally. If your children are a bit older than mine, maybe theres more to it than just the comfiness of your bed. Are they afraid of something, bad dreams, worried about you ect. Try to talk to them a little more in depth and maybe you'll get a good response. Hope all works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

It's not necessarily a bad thing, but you need to establish boundaries so that when/if ever you have a man in your life you can still have some alone/adult time with them without having to worry that any second the kids are gonna be coming through that door.

I was with a woman for awhile who had two children. EVERY NIGHT they'd come and get into bed with her. When I started staying the night with her, we had to lock the door. The little ones would sit outside the door, beating on it and crying until they were allowed to come and climb into bed with us.

Without establishing boundaries, you will have a hard time breaking them of it in the future. While it may not be sick and wrong right now. When you're kids are older and have never been broken of the habit it could be VERY sick and wrong.

There is nothing wrong with trying to get them to realize they have their own space to sleep in. Make their room enjoyable to them. Make bedtime enjoyable. Read them a book, spend some time with them in their room and stay with them till they fall asleep. It's a lot of work to get them to stop doing it. You may enjoy it now, but there will come a time when you wish you had just an inch worth of your own space. Maybe for being intimate with someone. Maybe just because you want your own damn space for a second.

Work on it now so that it's not a huge issue later.

Answer 5

I have no idea what your other question was (will check it out in a minute) but I agree. Kids sleep in their parents beds all the time. It is called co-sleeping. In fact a lot of times there is only 1 bed in the house and it is a family bed. I think on here you get a lot of people that think their opinion is law. Just what I have experienced.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what it is that you're asking but I don't see anything wrong with it up until the child reaches a certain age and it does depend on the sex of the parent and the child. It tends to be more accepted if the children are female and are climbing into a mothers bed (after a certain age if the father is not there) than it is for a son to climb into his mothers bed. My 2 year old son climbs into bed with my husband and myself if he can't sleep but we're already teaching him that he's getting older and that it needs to stop.

Answer 7

i dont think its so bad at all. I mean sometimes when im watching tv in my moms room and she falls asleep i just fall asleep too. N im 19. I also used to sleep with my lil brother till i was like 17 and he was 11. So no i dont think its wrong. I understand alot of people think its weird but seriously we're family not perverts.

Answer 8

It is fine, as long as your kids are young. I still lie in my mom's bed, but I do not sleep there. I am 17, almost 18. Its a good way to connect.

Answer 9

the kids have insecure feelings when sleeping alone thats why you find them in your bed your going to have to put a lock on your door and put your foot down dont let this continue this is for there owen good they have to be secure sleeping on there owen .

Answer 10

First off, how old is he? Send me a message, my yahoo email is in my profile. I would really like to help, but it would be easier, if i knew the age, and yea, you may not agree with my opinion, im only 16, but i consider myself, to be reasonable, and have been told i should be a motivational speaker recently..I would truely love to help!